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Posted on: May 29th, 2023 by Julie Bestry | 18 Comments

When I was a child, each July 4th as the music in the bandshell would stop and we’d pack up our chairs and blankets to the post-fireworks hubbub of people making their way to their cars, my father would always say the same thing. 

As Independence Day would ebb away, he’d say, “Well, it’s the 4th of July. Summer’s over.”

And this would always annoy Paper Mommy.

It didn’t make sense. In New York State where we lived, school had usually only let out about two weeks earlier. Summer didn’t even officially begin of June 21st, and wouldn’t end until the third week of September. How could summer be over?

As an adult (and likely to Paper Mommy‘s dismay), I understand what my father was getting at. We all struggle through dark, dismal winters of our lives (literally and figuratively), holding out for the bright energy of the summer. I contend that it’s not spring we ever really eagerly anticipate. Springtime is rainy and windy; it contains the misery of April 15th and paying taxes, and after all, as T. S. Eliot said, April is the cruelest month.

But as May is ushered in, we finally get warm weather. Early graduations, while signaling the end of schooling, also bring new beginnings. And though the holiday is meant to pay tribute to those who died in service of protecting our nation and democracy, Memorial Day is nonetheless the marker we all use to signal the first real refresh of our lives and plans since New Year’s Day.

January 1st puts us on notice (or has us put the world on notice) that we have the power to make changes in who we are. Of course, we experience these changes every day, and don’t need holidays or permission to make ourselves new, as I wrote in Organizing A Fresh Start: Catalysts for Success.

And remaking ourselves and renewing our outlooks doesn’t have to take the shape of a resolution, as I’ve shared for many years, most recently in Review & Renew for 2022: Resolutions, Goals, and Words of the Year

That said, we’re five full months into the year, and we may not have accomplished what we’d hoped. June is still a few days away, but if we’re not careful, if we’re not intentional, July 4th will be here in the blink of an eye. The week after the July 4th holiday is usually spent recovering from either revelry or obligatory travel to relatives. The heat of the summer builds up and our motivation wears down, and then suddenly it’s August.

For European friends and colleagues, life comes to a stop in August and entire nations turn their backs on toxic productivity and go on holiday. On this side of the Atlantic, we trudge on, working on what we must and shocked at the brevity of weekends when there’s fun to be had at barbecues and pool parties. And then there’s a shocking moment when someone asks what we’re doing for the holiday and Labor Day is one flip-of-the-calendar away!

To Paper Mommy‘s chagrin, my father was right. By the time the smoky scent of the fireworks retreats on July 4th, it’ll be a merely blink, two at most, and summer will be over.

But it doesn’t HAVE to be that way. We can take our summer back. We have 98 days from Memorial Day to Labor Day. What if we make a pact to make some of our plans, perhaps even actual dreams, come true?

UNDERSTAND WHY THE SUMMER DISAPPEARS SO QUICKLY

Way back in March 2020, in Does Anybody Really Know What Time It Is? 5 Strategies to Cope With Pandemic Time Dilation, I talked about how the oddness of the COVID lockdown made us lose track of time. I compared it to how in the first few days of a vacation, we’re hyper-aware of the strange stillness of not abiding by our usual and strict minute-by-minute schedules. But by a while into the vacation, we let our guards down and allow ourselves to drift off into the seductive haziness of having too few obligations.

If your work has “summer Fridays” or your kids don’t have scheduled activities (camp or lessons or clubs), you likely know what it’s like when summer makes your schedule feel more amorphous. Mealtimes, bedtimes, worktimes…summer time, in general, lacks structure.

When we aren’t careful about adding structure, we sink. (And while most TV-viewing GenXers have been shocked by how little literal quicksand we encounter in our 21st-century lives, we’ve nonetheless found that summer, like a mini-version of our early pandemic lives, causes us to sink into a malaise.)

MAKE YOUR SUMMER SCHEDULE SERVE YOUR GOALS

What I said in Struggling To Get Things Done? Paper Doll’s Advice & The Task Management & Time Blocking Virtual Summit 2022 is still apt. While much of that advice was envisioned for accomplishing things when there’s too much going on in your life, it’s surprisingly useful when the summer’s vagueness and low expectations melts our brains and our aspirations.

1) Put structure in your life. 

Create daily rituals so you have a real sense of the start and end of your workday, and develop buffer habits so your brain gets the same benefits of a commute even if you’re walking around the block instead of driving to work while listening to your favorite podcast.

Time block to create boundaries in your day. By blocking off specific times in your schedule for overarching categories (passive work projects, creative/active work projects, self-care, self-education, entertainment) you’re guaranteeing that there’s a place in your schedule for each. Knowing this gives you a sense of security, a system upon which you can depend. 

Someday is not a day on the calendar. Whether you schedule 15 minutes in the morning or two hours on each weekend day or a chunk of time on Tuesdays and Thursdays, nothing gets done unless you assign a place for a task or behavior to live (in your schedule). For help, revisit:

Playing With Blocks: Success Strategies for Time Blocking Productivity

Highlights from the 2023 Task Management & Time Blocking Summit

Surprising Productivity Advice & the 2023 Task Management & Time Blocking Summit

2) Enhance novelty.

During the summer, the weather tends to offer a delightful and dreamy sameness. With the exception of rain, the weather tends to offer little variance. The temperature tends to be the same, daily, and it requires fewer precautions on our part. So, we have to create opportunities for novelty.

If you work from home, especially on days where you don’t have to Zoom into a meeting, work at least a few hours a day from a different venue. Set up on the patio or your balcony before the day gets too hot. A friend often posts a photo of his laptop balanced on his outstretched legs in a hammock! Even moving to a different area in your house with a different view from the window can refresh your energy and give you the spark to tackle new opportunities.

Don’t stop with work. Make a point of eating different foods the usual, and consider dining al fresco in your backyard. Without a lot of advanced effort or admin, invite friends over to picnic after dinner without planning. They bring their meal, you eat yours, and maybe you share, but the point of the conviviality (beyond the loveliness of their company) is doing something different.

Author Laura Vanderkam‘s Tranquility by Tuesday: 9 Ways to Calm the Chaos and Make Time for What Matters, has a good handle on overcoming the sameness of our days.

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As a result of her research on the tracked time use of 150 of her study participants, Vanderkam posits that to get out of the ruts our lives inevitably fall into, we need more novelty, texture, and richness in our time and our tasks.

I’ve talked about Vanderkam’s nifty idea before. She encourages people to identify one “big adventure” (lasting perhaps half a weekend day) and one “little adventure” (lasting an hour) each week to introduce novelty. Why? As Vanderkam noted, “We don’t ask where did the time go when we remember where the time went.” 

As @LauraVanderkam noted, *We don't ask 'where did the time go?' when we remember where the time went.* Share on X

3) Create vivid sensory clues for the passing of time!

You’ve heard this from me before. Go analog!

Digital time just doesn’t provide the same sense of the passage of time as analog wristwatches and clocks. You don’t have to chuck everything out, though.

Identify which of your digital clocks you can change to an analog appearance.

  • Car — This weekend, I couldn’t figure out why my car was playing a podcast over Bluetooth when my phone was plugged into the charger. (Short answer: the charging cable worked fine for charging but decided not to be helpful for CarPlay. Apparently, that’s a thing that happens.) But while I was trying to figure out what the heck was wrong with CarPlay, I tapped on literally every function on my Kia’s screen. And I learned that the default screen has ALL SORTS of different display options, just like you can change the wallpaper on your phone. And one of those options let me me change the default screen to an analog one.
  • Trackers — For example, my FitBit has multiple clock faces, from plain digital to an avant guard look to a lovely, old-fashioned analog clock face.
  • PhonesAndroid phones allow you to change your lock screen from digital to analog easily. Things are a little murkier on the iPhone; the clock app icon is a working analog clock (Yes, really! Watch the red second hand sweep the clock face), but the lock screen stays digital. Sigh. 

Invite physical analog clocks into your space to make the passage of time more visible and real, and shake up your relationship with time.

4) Remember self-care! 

It’s no secret that I’m not a morning person, but it’s only been in the past few years that I’ve learned that our bodies need daylight in order to set our internal clocks to that we’re able to sleep at night. (This explains so much!) So, while there’s more daylight in the summer, it does you no good if you’re stuck inside your office or home and toiling away, missing it. 

At work, your fellow staffers may take advantage of smoke breaks. (Ugh.) That’s paid break time of which you may never have availed yourself. So try it. No, don’t smoke (seriously, don’t), but take the break time and go outside. Here are some good moments to take a fresh-air-and-sunshine break:

  • When you’ve come out of a meeting
  • If you’ve just finished a virtual call on Zoom or Meet or Teams
  • When you make three mistakes in a row. Everybody makes booboos, but if you mis-speak three times, or get confused about a concept, or just have a series of oopsies, that’s a sign that your brain is getting fuzzy and you need to refresh.
  • If you’re angry, frustrated, hurt, or disappointed. There’s a reason the “Taking a stupid walk for my stupid mental health” TikTok trend has become so popular. It works!
  • When you’ve just finished a chunk of deep work. Whether you’ve done a series of 25-minute pomodoros and are ready for a longer break, or you’ve tried the 52/17 Method and you’re ready for 17 minutes of sunlight, get the heck away from your desk. (More more on this, re-read Frogs, Tomatoes, and Bees: Time Techniques to Get Things Done.)

You also need sleep (aim for multiples of 90 minutes, so try 7 1/2 or 9 hours rather than your usual eight) to make sure you’re getting complete REM cycles.

Remember exercise. Whether it’s gentle yoga or power cardio, your body needs strong muscles, flexibility, and stamina.

Hydration and good nutrition are also essential. And no, this isn’t a wellness blog. But all of these things require good organization and management of your time. Set an alarm on your smartwatch or use an app to remind you to drink water

5) Take a Technology Break, or a Few 

Our dependence on technology can prevent us from noticing the real world all around us and the passage of time. I’m not saying to send letters by carrier pigeon instead of using email or scribbling numbers on the wall instead of using a spreadsheet. (Though it might be neat to receive a letter via the Owl Postal Service in the Harry Potter books!) But consider some options for reducing your dependence on tech when it’s not serving your productivity needs.

Keep the phone out of your bedroom. You’ll be less likely to doom scroll into the wee hours, and the blue light of your device won’t wreck your ability to fall and stay asleep.

When you do wake up, don’t grab your phone right away. Instead, do something intentional that will help you achieve your goals for making these hazy, crazy days of summer something more productive (or relaxing or dream-fulfilling). Why not:

  • Meditate or explore silent devotion?
  • Read a few pages of a real book?
  • Visualize your goals for the day and embrace some positive affirmations?
  • Get moving? Do some yoga stretches, go for a brisk walk, or do a short workout, or any tiny movement that won’t feel like labor but a nice blip of activity!

Start your day calmly and in control so you have a much better chance of achieving whatever it is you’d like to do with your summer.

When you’re working (or playing), keep your phone in your drawer or your bag. You’ll be distracted and interrupted far less often, allowing you to focus on what you’re doing and get into a flow state.

And maybe consider a digital detox where you put your gadgets and gizmos away after a certain time in the evening, or a technology sabbath where you eschew those pings and whooshes and curated feeds for 24 hours a week.

IDENTIFY WHAT YOU WANT TO ACCOMPLISH THIS SUMMER

Only you know what you want to achieve this summer. Once you’ve got an overarching goal, you can consider how you’ll implement it in small, manageable ways.

Write a book? If you do want to write a book, check out the sixth year of acclaimed author Jami Attenberg‘s 1000 Words of Summer challenge. It provides accountability and motivation for getting a jump start on your writing. And maybe you could follow it up in November with NaNoWriMo?

[Editor’s note: Jami’s series of challenges led to the 2024 release of 1000 Words: A Writer’s Guide to Staying Creative, Focused, and Productive All Year Round

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Get in shape? Pick just one thing. If you’re intrinsically motivated, block time to swim in the morning before work instead of scrolling social media and hitting your snooze alarm, or after work to give your brain a complete refresh before having a “part 2” of your day. If you need external  motivation and support, explore joining a summer workout program. Many cities and communities have outdoor sponsored by the Parks & Recreation departments for free or at minimal costs, and it’s less pressure (and cost) than joining a gym.

Maybe you don’t even know what you want to do this summer, but you just know you want this summer to be different and not whoosh by in a series of passing strangers on the street and saying, “Hot enough for you?” over and over. Peruse these posts for ideas:

102 Summer Goals That Are Perfect For Overthinkers

31 Best Summer Goals to Set This Season (2023)

45 Summer Goals: A List to Set for 2023

25 Summer Goals to Make the Most of the Season

Your summer plan doesn’t have to be a big thing. It doesn’t have to be a thing at all. Not everything has to be a big enough deal to make your family’s holiday newsletter. You could decide to eat more seasonal produce (rather than letting it turn to glop in the back of your fridge).

(I don’t know why this man needed so many bananas, but I applaud his enthusiasm!)

Maybe decide to set aside your spare change all summer and then donate it to charity…or splurge on something fabulous Labor Day weekend. (I won’t judge!) You could even strive to do some the things you missed out on during COVID, whether that’s seeing your favorite band on tour or traveling to a far-flung place.

Maybe you want to spend more time with your children to build memories, or have more quality time with your Significant Other or your BFF (not that your best friend isn’t also extremely significant)! Follow Laura Vanderkam’s suggestion and plot out big and little adventures for the summer weeks. By Labor Day, you’ll have stacked up a series of adventures that will make the summer memorable.

FIND A PARTNER

As I mentioned briefly in Paper Doll To the Rescue: How To Save Wet Books & Documents, a few summers ago, after a lifetime of trying (and failing) to read Anna Karenina, I partnered with my college friend and pre-COVID traveling buddy to read the book together. She’s a pediatrician in Upstate New York; I’m a Paper Doll in Tennessee. But through email and texts and phone calls, we were able to explore the characters and how we interpreted their behaviors through a modern lens. (Honestly, we gossiped about them as if they were Grey’s Anatomy characters. Just very, very Russian.)

We’ve decided to do it again, knowing we’re less likely to give up at a boring point if we’re doing this together. We agreed on reading another classic — we’re both fans of Jane Austen, but I already reread all six novels annually, and we wanted something new to both of us. I suggested Middlemarch, but she’s anti-George Eliot due to an unfortunate high school Silas Marner experience. She countered with Frankenstein, and while I appreciate Mary Shelley’s under-appreciated talents, I’ve read it before and it’s a downer.

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And that’s how we ended up starting reading Vanity Fair this weekend. Mr. Thackeray, do your darnedest!

Having a partner in crime is always a great way to stick to your goals, large or small. As a reminder, you’ll find lots of suggestions for getting support and accountability in:

Paper Doll Sees Double: Body Doubling for Productivity

Count on Accountability: 5 Productivity Support Solutions

Flow and Faux (Accountability): Productivity, Focus, and Alex Trebek

ESTABLISH BENCHMARKS AND CELEBRATE  YOUR SUCCESS!

Whatever you want to do this summer, whether it’s a big, honking deal or just a plan to find more time for your bliss, formally noticing that you’ve made strides toward your goal is a great way to honor your effort (and your magnificence).

Formally noticing that you've made strides toward your goal is a great way to honor your effort (and your magnificence). Share on X

Whether you choose to notice your successes by posting updates on social media or just calling your mother (or my mother — she’s great for building up confidence), the point is that you take time to pat yourself on the back and say, “Yay, me!”

Enjoy your summer!

Pulitzer Prize-winning Mary Oliver‘s oft-quoted poem, The Summer Day, has a profound message. After pondering the nature of nature, prayer, and mortality, and debating whether one even knows how to do what they’ve already been doing all day, the narrator asks with passion and reverence what we might want to ask ourselves as we set forth into the summer:

Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?

You’ve got 98 days. Whatever your answer to the question, go for it!

Posted on: May 22nd, 2023 by Julie Bestry | 17 Comments

DO IT TODAY

Back in March, I told you all about my fabulous friend-of-the-blog (and of the blogger — me!), Kara Cutruzzula in Paper Doll Interviews Motivational Wordsmith Kara Cutruzzula. Writer/editor/playwright/lyricist/librettist & all-around-cool-kitten Kara and I have been collaborating for years and sharing one another’s achievements, and today is a chance to share something fun we’ve created together.

If you didn’t get the chance to read that post back, I recommend you jump over to do that. (There are some cool comedic and musical interludes!) We covered Kara’s talents at writing dialogue, especially spitfire-fast banter for whip-smart female characters like those in The Gilmore Girls and The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel, and her skills at writing musicals. That post dug deep into Kara’s background and the resources she creates, including her uplifting Brass Ring Daily newsletter, and her books:

Do It For Yourself: A Motivational Journal,

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and her forthcoming Do It Or Don’t: A Boundary-Creating Journal.

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In that prior blog post, I also told you that Kara and I had recorded an episode of her Do It Now podcast to air in the podcast’s second season — and that episode is out now!

Today with Julie Bestry: Letting Go of the Stress of Getting Things Done

And it’s not just out, but it’s hot! The episode premiered last Monday, while I was off celebrating a long Mother’s Day weekend with Paper Mommy. Meanwhile, Kara promoted our lively conversation in her Brass Ring Daily newsletter, and listeners really took to it. Kara even forwarded one fabulous email message she received:

“I just wanted to share that on average, I listen to zero podcast episodes a year (it’s not a format that works for my brain usually) — and I could have listened to another two hours of you two talking. I enjoyed that so much this morning. Thank you for making this and sharing it, and to Julie of course.  Inspiring as always, and so expansive. Wow. ❤️ thank you.” 

Given that Paper Doll readers know how extensively I like to cover a topic, and how delightful and wise Kara is, I’m pretty sure we could have spoken for another two hours — maybe even another two days!

Kara’s podcast usually involves interviews with people I’d consider a much bigger deal than I am — Broadway bigwigs (performers, producers, and stage managers), screenwriters, musicians, journalists, and others who do their work on a big stage (no pun intended). But what we all have in common is the need to get things done each day, and that’s exactly what Kara asks guests about as a jumping off point —  what we’re doing that day, and what goes into making sure we get it done.

I’d been fascinated by, and had taken gems away from, every episode of the podcast’s first season, and I was a little uncertain as to what new I could bring to the table. It’s not like I could break into song or share any behind-the-scene secrets from Hamilton or Six. (Oh, if only I could!) But it took all of two seconds for Kara to put me at ease, Oprah-style, and we were off and running. We covered a lot of ground, including:

Having so much fun talking to Kara and riffing on these kinds of topics *almost* makes me wish she and I had a regular podcast where got to talk all the time!

You can catch Kara’s and my conversation on the podcast episode page, or at pretty much anywhere you listen to podcasts, like Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Amazon Music, Castro, Castbox, Podcast Addict, Player FM, and Deezer. (And no, I hadn’t heard of most of those services, either.) You can also subscribe to the podcast by RSS

WORLD ORGANIZING DAY

This past Saturday, May 20, 2023, was World Organizing Day. To quote from NAPO‘s web site: 

World Organizing Day is a global initiative founded by the International Federation of Professional Organizing Associations (IFPOA) to celebrate the work of organizing and productivity professionals.

This designated day aims to increase public awareness of the benefits of getting organized. It highlights the work of organizing and productivity professionals who enrich the personal and professional lives of their clients.

It also recognizes the accomplishments of individuals and organizations in their efforts to become more organized and productive. 

With regard to benefits, it’s obvious that being more organized allows us to save time and money, and to be more productive. When we have organized systems and skills to get (and stay) organized, we can more effectively and efficiently use our space and find what we need when we need it.

However, the psychological benefits of organizing are manifold, as well. When we declutter our living and working spaces, we also reduce the psychological friction that stands between us and getting things done. We reduce frustration and overwhelm, giving ourselves a sense of confidence about our abilities and our surroundings, and increase our sense of ease around having others in our environment with us.

In honor of World Organizing Day, the Institute of Challenging Disorganization (ICD) is making four 90-minute sessions from their 2021 virtual conference available for free to professional organizers as well as to members of the public. Start by watching this video:

Next, go to the ICD website page for World Organizing Day. If you’re already a subscriber or otherwise have an account, you can just log in and go straight there; otherwise, you can quickly create an account.

Then you’ll be taken to the Request for Access to World Organizing Day online form. Once you fill in a few details, you’ll immediately be sent an email granting you access to watch any or all of the four available courses in the World Organizing Day 2023 Package, covering a wide variety of issues related to chronic and challenging disorganization:

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  • A Fabulous Way to Build Resilience to Mitigate the Impact of Compassion Fatigue, taught by Barbara Rubel MA, BCETS, DAAETS, author of a variety of books on loss, grief,  bereavement, and renewal.
  • Neuroarchitecture Contributions To Challenge Disorganization, taught by Andréa de Paiva, MA, professor, founder of NeuroAU, and an architect seeking to bridge research, education and design.
  • Turning Pain into Purpose: My OCD Journey, taught by Ethan S. Smith

Please note that while all four sessions are free of charge, they are only available through June 3, 2023.

OLD HOME WEEK & PRODUCTIVITY PEEPS

Meanwhile, as my colleagues across the planet were celebrating World Organizing Day, I went on a little road trip and got to enjoy camaraderie and talk about productivity with two people whose names might be familiar to Paper Doll readers.

Each March for the past several years, I’ve participated in the Task Management and Time Blocking Summit run by Francis Wade. As I’ve mentioned, not only do I know Francis from the productivity community, but we actually lived in the same dorm, the International Living Center, at Cornell University!

Although we’ve popped up on the same podcasts, webinars, and virtual meet-ups, Francis and I hadn’t seen each other in person in about 37 years! A few months ago, I found out Francis was flying in from Jamaica to Atlanta to present at an International Association for Strategy Professionals (IASP), and would be taking a quick jaunt to Alabama to see family and meet up with our fellow productivity colleague (and my fellow Evernote Certified Expert), Dr. Frank Buck. We knew we’d have to find a way to meet up!

You readers know Frank from when he interviewed me for his own podcast. And all three of us have crossed paths in a variety podcasts and summits recapped in Paper Doll posts, including those mentioned above and Paper Doll Picks: Organizing and Productivity Podcasts.

I wonder if anyone frets over (I mean, “embraces the challenges of”) logistical concerns more than organizing and productivity people. Over several weeks, we squared away the details of triangulating the travel details of our little circle. (See what I did here?) Francis was arriving from Jamaica and driving west to an outer suburb of Birmingham, Alabama to spend the weekend with family before heading back to Atlanta for his conference. 

(Ignore the total time and mileage; I couldn’t figure out how to make Google show two separate routes simultaneously, so it added two routes together.)

Added to the complications of planning were my continuing reliance on COVID precautions (not dining indoors) and the fact that I don’t eat meat, but Frank took on the role of cruise director with aplomb and dove into research mode!

Once we knew Francis had arrived safely, I’d be driving southwest from Chattanooga, and Frank would drive a far shorter (but not insignificant) route westward. Through the magic of Google, we identified the unfortunately-named but absolutely delightful community of Trussville, Alabama for our meet-up. There were a few kerfuffles due to weather and communication (take note: always agree on which method of communication — email or texting or whatever — before arranging any muti-location adventure), but we still managed to arrive at our destination within moments of one another.

For anyone ever hoping to meet up with friends in the general vicinity of central Alabama (and I’m not sure how many of Paper Doll readers might find that likely), and not having a reason or inclination to go all the way to Birmingham, I can’t recommend Trussville more highly. This walkable community, filled with restaurants, shops, and a central “entertainment district with a communal dining pavilion, outdoor theater, and hanging-out lawn was perfect for getting together for a late lunch/early dinner.

Interrupted only a few times by bursts of rain that moved along in minutes, Francis, Frank, and I enjoyed an afternoon and evening of hearty discussion of productivity methods, Evernote, Artificial Intelligence, video editing, our respective families’ genealogical histories, the current politics of education in America, international perspectives on long-term strategic planning (as a nod to Francis’ conference topic), and the meaning of an all-gender bathroom pictogram (which apparently is not a common sight in Jamaica — we assured Francis that it’s just like any one-person bathroom available to all, like in one’s home or on an airplane, ).

At Pinchgut Pies, the fellas partook of a specialty “Gaitor Bait” pizza with alligator sausage, while I ordered a pesto-and-fresh-mozzarella pie; later, after hearty discussion of all of the above topics, plus early 20th-century treatments of polio and our experiences of 9/11 (Frank was a school principle; I was working in television), we sampled the wares of Cookie Dough Magic, which sells both ice cream and edible cookie dough.

After three years of COVID and not traveling to any professional gatherings in person, it was a delight to gather outside and talk to colleagues/friends (about productivity as well as personal topics), and getting to finally meet Frank in person, and seeing Francis for the first time in 37 years, seemed like something worth sharing with all of you readers.

Being organized and productive is wonderful, but we must remember that we do it in service of a greater good, to have the opportunity to accomplish not only our labors, but achieve our joys.

As Memorial Day weekend approaches and we head into a (hopefully) more sociable summer, may you be organized and productive, but I hope you also get to enjoy good company, good food, and good times.

Posted on: May 8th, 2023 by Julie Bestry | 8 Comments

You may have heard that for the first time in 15 years, the Writers Guild of America has gone on strike. What they’re asking for is reasonable, especially in light of all that’s changed in the television industry (including streaming services). Meanwhile, you may find yourself with a shortage of your favorite shows to watch.

You’ve got lots of options to fill your time. You could read a book (or several), in which case, you might seek guidance from 12 Ways to Organize Your Life to Read More — Part 1 (When, Where, What, With Whom) and 12 Ways to Organize Your Life to Read More — Part 2 (Reading Lists, Challenges & Ice Cream Samples) Or you could get out in the sunshine or hang out with friends.

But what can you do if you really like to sit in a comfy chair and watch things on a glossy screen? Well, if you’ve already exhausted every English-language comedy and drama on Amazon Prime, Apple TV, Netflix, Hulu, Paramount+, Disney+, and YaddaYadda+, you could try watching one of the many Korean-language dramas on Netflix. (I recommend Extraordinary Attorney Woo — it’s charming and delightful.)

Or you could try something completely different. Today’s post offers up a mix of webinars and actual TV programming designed to help you live a better, more productive, more organized life. 

DAILY DOSE MINI CHALLENGES

Could you use a little support in reaching your goals? My cool friend Georgia Homsany runs Daily Dose, a wellness company celebrating its 3-year anniversary! How do you celebrate three years of supporting people’s health and wellness needs through corporate and individual endeavors? With three really cool weeks of 5-day mini-challenges! And I get to be part of one of them!

  • 5-Day Positivity Challenge (May 8-12) — Learn how to conquer stress and negativity with simple reminders and healthy habits to transform your mindset. (It starts today!)
  • How to Overcome Perfectionism (May 15-19) — Learn how recognize the signs of perfectionist tendencies, understand the negative effects of it, and gain skills to minimize the idea of perfection in your workplace and personal life.
  • Declutter Your Space and Schedule (May 22-26) — Receive actionable advice to help you get motivated, make progress, and gain control over the life and work clutter that weighs you down. From chaotic mornings to cluttered desks and screens to procrastination and wonky schedules, I’ll be telling you how to make it all better.

Yup, that last one is my mini-challenge. And you KNOW how much I pack into whatever I deliver. 

For each mini-challenge, you get:

  • Video content delivered daily over the course of five days. Videos are designed to be short and to the point so you can learn and get on with your day to incorporate the advice.
  • Email and/or text reminder notifications — and you get to set your reminder preference!
  • An interactive platform to ask questions and chat with other participants.

Plus, there’s a BONUS: Each participant will also be entered in a raffle to win one of three wellness prizes! (One (1) winner per challenge.)

The cost is $25 per challenge, or $65 for all three! (And remember, the first challenge starts today, Monday, May 8th!) So go ahead and register before it falls to the bottom of your to-do list!

5-Day Positivity Challenge!

How to Overcome Perfectionism

Declutter Your Space and Schedule 

If you have questions or want to sign register for all three, email Daily Dose with “5 Day Mini Courses” in the subject line. And say hi from me!

HOW TO FIX MEETINGS

Graham Allcott of Think Productive is the author of How to be a Productivity Ninja: Worry Less, Achieve More and Love What You Do, which has a prominent place on my bookshelf.

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He’s also written How to be a Study Ninja: Study Smarter. Focus Better. Achieve More (for students), Work Fuel: The Productivity Ninja Guide to Nutrition, and more.

Graham and Hayley Watts, his writing partner on their book, How to Fix Meetings: Meet Less, Focus on Outcomes and Get Stuff Done, are offering a free Zoom-based webinar this week, on Tuesday, May 9, 2023. (Note that Graham and Hayley are in the UK, and the start time listed is 2 p.m. GMT, which is 9 a.m. Eastern Time, so please synchronize your watches accordingly.)

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If you struggle with attending (or scheduling) meetings that should have been emails, if you have no planned itinerary for meetings, if your meetings tend to go on forever, and especially if your meetings don’t seem to ever achieve anything, this should be a good webinar to help you find your way forward. In Graham’s own words,

“Our approach to meetings in the book is much like Think Productive’s entire approach to productivity: it’s all about making space for what matters. That means eliminating so many of the unnecessary and unproductive meetings we have, but then in that space that we’ve created, we are able to focus in on the meetings that make a difference. The ones where collaboration and consensus generate the magic and momentum.”

They practice what they preach, so the webinar is only 45 minutes…and unlike broadcast TV, there are no commercials!

If you like what you see, you might want to sign up for their other upcoming free webinars (Human, Not Superhero on May 17, 2023, and Getting Comfortable with Mistakes and Imperfection on June 7, 2023), as well as their YouTube channel and paid public workshops.

Not only is the material great for building productivity, but everything is delivered in posh UK accents!

THE GENTLE ART OF SWEDISH DEATH CLEANING

Over the years, I’ve read a lot of books about organizing and decluttering, and am often conflicted. If you read my post, The Truth About Celebrity Organizers, Magic Wands, and the Reality of Professional Organizing, you know how I feel about celebrity organizers (and non-professionals) offering up advice that’s one-size-fits-all and doesn’t take into account individual’s personal situations, mental health, family and work obligations, home sizes, and comfort levels. In short, such an approach does not please me!

But that doesn’t mean I eschew all books on the topic, either by celebrities or non-professionals. Five years ago, I read The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning: How to Free Yourself and Your Family from a Lifetime of Clutter with curiosity but few expectations.

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The author, Margareta Magnusson, wasn’t a professional organizer; she hadn’t even been previously published. Was this going to be another “hygge” kind of movement where everyone and his brother would take a cultural phenomenon and profit off of it? Was “death cleaning” even actually a thing in Sweden? And would the advice be any good?  

First, I got a little taste of Magnusson’s style by watching this interview clip.

Eventually, I sprinted through the book. Here’s an excerpt from the Goodreads review I wrote at the time:

“Gentle” in this book’s title is the key to guiding your expectations. If you’re looking for a detailed how-to book on decluttering, this is not your resource. It’s something else, and as a professional organizer, I’m inclined to say it’s something better. Swedish artist Margareta Magnusson, self-reportedly somewhere between eighty and one hundred years old, is experienced at döstädning, translated as “death cleaning,” but meaning the essential downsizing one should do in one’s 60s, 70s, and beyond so that one’s children and friends are not left with the sad labor of separating the wheat from the chaff and risking missing gems among the clutter.

Magnusson is like a worldly but sweet elderly aunt, writing lightly amusing, firm-but-gentle, philosophical guidance for her friends and age cohorts. If you’re in your 40s or younger, you may roll your eyes at this book, thinking, “Oh, I know that!” but as a professional, I can tell you that the difference between knowing you should dramatically reduce your clutter (or not acquire it in the first place) and doing it represent a chasm as vast as the ocean that separates us from Sweden. […]

Some of Magnusson’s tips are about dealing with what you keep, rather than about letting go of items. My favorite, and one that I think we all need to hear every so often, came after her story of boating with friends and the constant loss of the boat keys, and how a small hook for the key inside the cabin door might have improved upon the crankiness of the participants. She said, simply, “Sometimes, the smallest changes can have amazing effects. If you find yourself repeatedly having the same problem, fix it! Obvious.” Perhaps, but do you always follow that obvious advice?

Magnusson seems uncertain about my own profession, noting that she thinks it’s important, when death cleaning, to seek out advice on things like the best charities to which to donate certain items, how to deal with beautiful items with no monetary value, and the wisdom/safety of gifting or donating potentially dangerous items. Elsewhere, she expresses the notion that she sees the value in professional organizers but worries about the cost (of many hours of help) if one is reluctant to actually let go of things. I can’t disagree with her. This is why she slyly uses her book to (again) gently encourage people to work toward understanding the wisdom of really looking at their possessions and considering what they really need and want as they age.

Again, her philosophy rather than her step-by-step advice is the value of the book. In one section, Magnusson offers some conversation starters for younger adults to help their elderly parents and grandparents (or those approaching their dotage) consider the very issues that she raises in the book. In another, she lays out how possessions can yield strong memories, but that one shouldn’t be sad if one’s children don’t want/need the unusable possessions just to remain attached to the memories.

At no time is Magnusson harsh; she’s wistful.[…] She says, “You can always hope and wait for someone to want something in your home, but you cannot wait forever, and sometimes you must just give cherished things away with the wish that they end up with someone who will create new memories of their own.” Lovely, and true, and yet so hard for so many people to accept.

There were two small areas of the book I particularly liked. First, Magnusson very briefly speaks of how death cleaning has traditionally been a woman’s job — women have historically been the caregivers, they live longer, they want to avoid causing trouble for the kids, etc. But although she is a woman of advanced years, she doesn’t give in. She notes that women of her generation were brought up not to be in the way, and to fear being a nuisance, and then notes, “Men don’t think like I do, but they should. They, too, can be in the way.” Death cleaning must be an equal-opportunity endeavor.

The other parts of the book I especially liked involved her focus on “private” and “personal” things. I won’t spoil the paragraph on “private” things except to say that what caused a few reviewers to call Magnusson “dirty” for one small paragraph in an entire book causes me to declare her refreshing. (I laughed out loud, joyfully.) This is not a prim old biddy, but a woman who has lived, and who understands that leaving behind one’s truly “private” items is not quite fair to those you predecease. The “personal” section that I enjoyed was the notion, towards the end of one’s time on the planet, of having a small box, about the size of a shoebox, for things that are yours alone. Think: love letters or a small whatnot that gives you pleasure but that will mean nothing to anyone after you’re gone, and which you can easily advise others to toss if you so choose.

As no translator is listed, I believe that Magnusson, herself, wrote the English version of this book. (Perhaps it was written for an English-speaking audience and Swedes have no need for what may seem like common sense to them?) This gave the text a warm, quaint feeling, as Magnusson’s English is excellent, but perhaps a tad formal. Yet she is not old-fashioned, nor are her ideas, and her recognition of the importance of technology will set at ease the minds of potential readers who might feel this book is too behind the times for them.

[…]If you are overwhelmed by clutter, certainly you can read this book, but don’t expect a primer on decluttering and creating new systems. (Better yet, call a professional organizer!) But do read this book to immerse yourself in the mindset that Magnusson puts forth, and you will likely find yourself more at ease with the notion of letting go of excess as you go through life.

I even liked the book enough to read her follow-up, mostly a memoir of her fascinating life, The Swedish Art of Aging Exuberantly: Life Wisdom from Someone Who Will (Probably) Die Before You.

So, I was surprised and delighted when my colleague Hazel Thornton told me that there was going to be a TV show based on the book, and then let me know it was launching before I’d even seen the trailer (below). 

I’m generally dubious about reality shows, especially organizing-related reality shows. They can be exploitive or silly, reductionist or melodramatic. I haven’t made my way through all of the episodes yet, but many of my colleagues have praised the sense of hope the show puts forth, both for the individuals portrayed on the show and for the useful new lives of the possessions that have been “death cleaned” out of their homes.

A note about the tone of the show. While Magnusson’s writing is, indeed, gentle, the show is produced and narrated by comedic actress Amy Poehler, who has been known to be on the sarcastic side, and the show has some instances of adult language (including the words George Carlin once noted could not be said on television), so if you are sensitive or uncomfortable with such, or tend to watch programming around impressionable children or adults who are uncomfortable with such language, please proceed cautiously

The team is made up of Ella, a professional organizer, Kat, a psychologist, and Johan, a designer, and the show is thematically similar to Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, produced by the same company. Some of my colleagues have called attention to the fact that the team’s practitioners are Swedish, so some sensibilities are quite different from our attitudes and practices in North America. 

As I haven’t had the opportunity to finish the entire series, I’m still formulating my thoughts, but I think only good things can come of looking at our time left and making the best use of it by not letting possessions weigh us (and those who live on after us) down.

The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning is streaming on Peacock; there are eight episodes in the first season, each ranging from 46 to 56 minutes in length. If you have cable, you can likely watch it for free (with commercials); if you do not have cable, you can subscribe to the Premium version for $4.99/month or Premium Plus for $9.99/month, and access it directly on a variety of devices and through services you already have

HOW TO GET RICH

Of my many complaints over the years about how organizing and productivity concerns are portrayed on television, the one that bothers me most has less to do with attitudes, performances, and advice, and more to do with what gets completely ignored.

Almost every organizing show I’ve ever seen has focused on decluttering residential spaces! 

It’s not that this isn’t important; it’s just that it’s not the only important thing. I’ve yet to see a television program designed for mass viewership that covers procrastination, productivity, organizing one’s tasks and time, or anything that goes into organizing non-residential, non-storage space. Even office organizing gets ignored. (One minor except: Tabatha’s Salon Makeover included small segments of workspace organizing in a hair salons.)

I’ve also noticed that there have been very few shows for a mainstream audience on organizing personal finances, an important sub-speciality for NAPO financial organizers and daily money managers in the American Association of Daily Money Managers. Financial organizing — everything from budgeting to investment planning to decluttering bad financial habits — is definitely important for leading a healthy, productive life.

And yet, how many reality or educational shows have you seen about personal finance? Suze Orman used to have a weekly call-in advice show on CNBC, the reruns of which you can see on Amazon Prime using Freevee, but that was more like watching a radio show and you only got narrow slices of people’s lives.

I preferred Til Debt Do Us Part, a Canadian show with Gail Vaz-Oxlade, where she visited the homes of a few different individuals and families each episode and doled out applicable financial advice. 

How to Get Rich, led by Ramit Sethi, author of I Will Teach You To Be Rich, reminds me of a louder, glitzier version of Vaz-Oxlade’s show.

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Over the course of eight episodes in this first season, Sethi meets with couples and individuals and offers financial (and seemingly life-coaching) advice to help them reach their goals. Sethi has degrees from Stanford University: a BA in Information & Society (in Science, Technology & Society) with a minor in Psychology and an MA in sociology (Social Psychology and Interpersonal Processes, and he’s a writer and entrepreneur. As far as I can tell, though, he’s not an accountant or Certified Financial Planner; he’s a self-labeled financial expert, so before you implement his financial advice, speak to a licensed expert in your state or jurisdiction. 

That said, the advice he provides to the guests on the show are generally common-sense on researchable topics. He comes out in favor of renting rather than buying when the cost of buying is excessive, and against multi-level marketing (MLM) in such a way that really makes clear how, mathematically, expectations of success are similar to middle school athletes expecting to be NBA All-Stars.

Like the majority of organizing shows, there’s not a lot of opportunity to provide in-depth financial organizing solutions or guidance. It’s TV, and TV is designed to entertain first and foremost, to keep hitting the dopamine centers in the brain in order to encourage viewers to keep watching.

That said, shows like How To Get Rich (and The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning, all those other organizing shows) do one great thing. They call attention to the fact that pain points can be soothed, that bad habits can be reversed, and that there is hope if you are willing to seek guidance and make behavioral changes.

The first season of How to Get Rich is on Netflix.


I’m not just a fan of good narrative television; my first career was as a television program director and I served on my network’s Program Advisory Council, giving network executives feedback on programming and scheduling. You can take the girl out of TV, but you can’t take TV out of the girl.  As such, I hope the deep-pocket corporations come to the negotiating table with the WGA and work out a deal that is fair to the hardworking professional writers who create the comedies and dramas, the TV shows and movies, that entertain and enliven us.

Until then, whether it’s an educational webinar or a edutainment reality show, I encourage you to mix some organizing and productivity into your viewing habits. And please feel free to share in the comments any recent shows, webinars, or other programming that slakes your thirst for guidance toward living your best possible life

Posted on: May 1st, 2023 by Julie Bestry | 24 Comments

ESSENTIAL ELEMENTS FOR TACKLING YOUR TO-DOS

Getting things done takes a lot of moving parts.

  • You need to know WHAT to do. (This is where a to-do list or a task app comes in.) 

Our brains can hold about seven things in our short-term memory, plus-or-minus a few. I always think of it as plus-or-minus three, given that phone numbers in North America being seven digits plus a three-digit area code. However, a misinterpretation of a famous psychological paper from 1956 leads people to understand Miller’s Law as allowing us to remember 7 things, plus-or-minus two.

That said, we can certainly remember more things, as long as we don’t have to recite them in very quick sequence. After all, a neurosurgeon doesn’t consult a to-do list to remember all of the steps in a complicated surgery, and we can (usually) handle remembering to make dozens of turns to get from where we work to where we live without benefit of GPS, assuming we’ve driven the route several times.

The simplicity or sophistication of your list of tasks is immaterial. Whether it’s on a sticky note, a page of a legal pad, a digital note in Notes or Evernote or OneNote, or any of a variety of task apps, if it shows the things you need to accomplish, you’re golden. 

  • You need to know what to do first.

The delightfully weird comedian Stephen Wright used to say, “You can’t have everything, where would you put it?”

Prioritizing is a toughie. We often say, “Well, all things being equal…” but of course, things aren’t equal. Some things are naturally high-priority — if you’re dealing with smoke, fire, blood, a baby crying (or a grownup crying hysterically), you need to tend to that first.

Most tasks in life don’t come with such obvious signs of their priorities. Usually, things we want to do are high emotional priorities but may be low productivity priorities. If I gave you a choice between doing an expense report or going to brunch, and assured you my magic powers extended to bippity-boppity-boo-ing your expense report for you and taking all calories and carbs out of your meal, you’d pick the corner table on the patio, convivial conversation with friends, and bottomless mimosas over filling cells on a spreadsheet.

We must prioritize our tasks. As we discussed in Paper Doll Shares Presidential Wisdom on Productivity, the key is to identify two essential characteristics of tasks: importance and urgency.

The Eisenhower Matrix isn’t the only method for determining these two factors, but it illustrates that only once you’ve figured out what are the most important and urgent things to get done, can you can figure out what things you should do yourself now, what you can delay and schedule for later, what you can delegate or assign to someone else, and what you can delete (or schedule for that non-existent “someday”). 

Some people like to eat the frog, per a quote originally ascribed to Mark Twain, “If the first thing you do in the morning is eat a live frog, you can go through the rest of the day knowing the worst is behind you.”  

This method encourages attacking the biggest, hairiest task first. Proponents of Eat the Frog, like Brian Tracy, who authored Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time, believe will this prevent you from spending the day procrastinating.

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They also posit that conquering the little green beast will give you such a sense of accomplishment that your adrenaline and pride will drive the focused energy necessary to work your way down your task list.

Me? I’m not so sure. I mean, yes, if you do the thing that you’re most likely to avoid first, of course you’ll feel strong and mighty and start knocking everything out of the park.

But how will you get yourself to do that? Even armed with all of the advice in last week’s and today’s, some of us are just going to keep avoiding the BIG YUCKY, certainly at the start of the day. Personally, I’m more inclined to start with something easy, as I believe that small victories breed success.

So, prioritizing isn’t just about the relative measure of the tasks, but of your emotional relationship to doing them. In other words, you do you, boo!

  • Sit down (or stand up) and do it!

Knowing what you have to do and in what order (or at least at what level of soon-itude) is great, but it won’t get your tushy in the chair. As Sir Isaac Newton reminded us in last week’s post, Paper Doll On Understanding and Conquering Procrastination, a body at rest tends to stay at rest and a body in motion tends to stay in motion. If your particular body has been at rest for a bit too long, how are you going to get it to hunker down, in derriere-in-chair position, to get cracking?

Today’s post examines the methods, both popular and lesser-known, for proudly placing your posterior in position for productivity.

ONE HOT TOMATO: THE POMODORO TECHNIQUE

Pomodoro is the Italian word for tomato, and a popular form of kitchen timer in the 20th century was tomato-shaped.

In the 1980s, Francesco Cirillo developed the Pomodoro Technique as a method for circumventing procrastination. The steps are basic:

  • Identify the task you’re going to work on.
  • Set a (kitchen) timer for 25 minutes.
  • Work on that task (without interruptions or distractions) for the entire 25 minutes.
  • Stop after 25 minutes (and if you’re strictly following the technique, check the task off on your official “To Do Today” sheet).
  • Take a short break of about five minutes.

After four completed pomodoros, take a longer break. Four pomodoros plus four short breaks would equal about two hours, so that’s an opportunity for quite a bit of focus each day.

Simple, eh? But there are a few caveats. If you get interrupted, you start over. If you get distracted, you start over. And no matter how well you enter the flow state when working, when the buzzer goes off after 25 minutes, you have to take the break.

You remember flow state, right? We talked about it extensively in Flow and Faux (Accountability): Productivity, Focus, and Alex Trebek. Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, the “father of flow,” described flow as “being completely involved in an activity for its own sake” and when our sense of self and our surroundings cease such that we hyper-focus on a task.

For some people, that last part is a real sticking point of the Pomodoro Technique, because the break in the flow at 25 minutes may lead to a break in inspiration and concentration. For others, it’s like stopping a movie just when it’s getting to the good part — you can’t wait to get back to it.

Does it have to be a tomato-shaped timer? No, although it may help some people feel they are doing the technique in an “official” way, and for rule followers, that may help them get into the right head space.

Does it have to be a physical timer? Not necessarily. But the mind-body connection is a powerful thing, and physically manipulating a handheld kitchen timer (tomato-shaped or otherwise) might be be the key for some people to feel their activation energy getting triggered.

If the physical sensation of turning on a timer helps you set your attention on using your time intentionally, then use that to increase your motivation. But if you’re just not that touch-feely, just give a shout to Siri or Alexa to set a timer for 25 minutes, or use some of the zillions of digital pomodoro sites and apps out there.

Does it have to ring like a kitchen timer? Once again, no. Some people may find the harsh and unyielding ring or buzz of a timer to be too jarring, not only ending the flow state, but setting them on edge. If you are neurodivergent or categorize yourself as a highly sensitive person, you may be overwhelmed by an intense buzz; consider a tangible timer with a more melodious sound or pick a digital timer or phone alarm with your favorite “ta da, I did it!” song to gently break you out of your reverie.

Again, only you know what’s going to help you surface from your underwater focus bubble vs. what’s going to make you feel like you’ve narrowly avoided fender bender.

TOCKS

Tick-tock goes the clock, and that 25-minute tomato-based technique is practiced world-wide. But a similar method was developed independently by Daniel Reeves, co-founder of the productivity app Beeminder. (It’s been years since we covered Beeminder, but it’s a data-driven, habit-tracking productivity app where you put your money where your mouth is, pledging that if you don’t hit your goals, Beeminder will charge your credit card!) 

Back in 2004, Reeves (independently) developed a variant of the Pomodoro Technique based on the idea of working for 45 minutes and taking 15-minute breaks. Each 45-minute block is called a tock. Like the Pomodoro Technique, Tocks rely on specifying what you’ll be working on during the tock.

Those who practice these hourly tock/break blocks are encourage do start on the hour, making it easier to track how much you accomplish (and see when it’s time to get your tushy back to work). Reeves also urges users to take note of mental distractions so they don’t end up like the guy in the Distracted Boyfriend meme.

This reminds me of something I heard Alan Brown of ADD Crusher once say, that when one is being distracted by other possible tasks, it’s important to remember that there are “only three types of things.” There’s:

  • What I’m working on now
  • Important things that are not what I’m working on now, and
  • BS things that are not what I’m working on now.

I see two advantages of noting your distracting thoughts. First, it will give you confidence that you won’t forget the (possibly) brilliant ideas that you had, and letting go of that fear will allow you to focus on what you’re doing. Second, it will yield a tangible list of other tasks to consider when you take your break, or later on when you’re deciding what is important or urgent to schedule.

Beeminder is bee-themed, and the original Tocks blog post sourced a bee-shaped timer that was later unavailable. However, I’ve found it, as well as a slightly less adorable alternative. If something like this would inspire you to be a busy (and productive) bee, go forth and create some buzz!

Etsy has the original version for $19.98 (plus shipping) for a set of two Spring Bumble Bee Design 60 Minute Kitchen Timers:

Less adorable and lacking actual deelyboppers, but available with Amazon Prime for $17.55, is this Kitchen Bee Timer:

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THE 90-MINUTE FOCUS BLOCK

At first glance, this just seems like a super-sized Pomodoro. Instead 25 minutes of focus plus a break, you work for 90 minutes. But there’s scientific backing.

The field of sleep research has found that our bodies experience ultradian rhythms, recurrent 90-minute cycles throughout each 24-hour day. These are similar to the cycles of rapid eye movement (REM) sleep, discovered by researcher Nathaniel Kleitman. (This is why sleep researchers advise sleeping in multiples of 90 minutes to ensure you don’t get awakened mid-cycle, and why 7 1/2 hours of sleep (five 90-minute cycles) may make you feel more refreshed than 8 hours (four 90-minute cycles but then being jarred awake partway through your fifth).

Kleitman found evidence that we have 90-minute periods of high-frequency brain activity alternating with 20-minute periods of low(er)-frequency brain activity. (There’s a whole science-y explanation of how the cycles are governed by how our brains use our potassium and sodium ions to conduct electrical signals, but this is a blog post about productivity, not neurobiology. Thank goodness.)

So, if our energy levels and cognitive functions are optimal during particular 90-minute periods when we’re awake, and we attack tasks during the 90-minute blocks when our high-frequency brain activity is running on all cylinders, we’re going to be more attentive, more creative, and more productive. Winner, winner, chicken dinner!

Our brains use more energy than any other organs in our bodies, and when our brains are in that high-frequency mode, we’re using up that energy and freaking out the sodium/potassium levels. We NEED that 20-minute break, but we’re too distracted to take it. So the brain says, “hold my beer,” and slows us down into the low(er) brain wave frequencies, making us distracted, tired, foggy, and cranky.

If we take that 20-minute break, the sodium-potassium partnership ramps back up and we’re ready to tackle our tasks in a focused way. If we ignore that break, we’re going to experience a diminishing return on our time-and-focus investment.

TimeTimer Plus 120-Minute Timer

So, using a 90-minute focus block is similar to the Pomodoro Technique, except that you’ll trade your 25-minute work sessions for 90-minute blocks, and extend your 5- or 10-minute breaks to 20. 

That said, humans can be weird. Have you ever gotten hungry but instead of eating (which you knew you should do), you pushed yourself to keep going to the point that you pushed right through hunger and into queasiness? Those of us who get migraines know that when we first experience symptoms, we should take meds, hydrate, go to a dark room, etc., but many migraineurs will tell you that at least sometimes, they ignore the symptoms until it gets much worse. Again, humans are weird. 

Alarms may not be enough. You might want to set the sleep mode on your computer monitor — or borrow from the accountability and body doubling lessons I’ve recently shared. For example, ask a friend to call or swing by your desk to remind you to stop after 90 minutes, then go for a refreshing walk outside.

THE 52/17 METHOD

Perhaps you feel that somewhere between 25 minutes and 90 minutes is your sweet spot? There’s an option that looks random, but anecdotal research may persuade you otherwise. As Julia Gifford wrote in a piece for The Muse, she identified another work-to-break ratio workflow that might help you focus more productively.

Gifford’s team studied the top 10% most productive employees using the time-tracking and productivity app DeskTime — and learned these folks rocked at taking productive breaks. (If you read my Toxic Productivity Part 3: Get Off the To-Do List Hamster Wheel, the efficacy of these breaks won’t surprise you.) In particular they found that, on average, these super-productive employees were working for 52 minutes and then taking 17 minute breaks before getting back into the thick of it.

Giffords’ theory is that these highly-productive employees treated their 52-minute blocks as sprints, a popular concept in the corporate world, particularly in technology fields. In a sprint, you work with “intense purpose” and dedication to the task, whatever it is, and then (as with the 90-minute focus block) let the brain rest and recuperate (and NOT think about work, or at least that work) before the next big sprint.  

We aren’t robots. We just can’t sit and stare at a screen or make the widgets on a factory floor, or whatever, for 8-hours straight. Even robots can’t always work like robots!

“Repeating tasks causes cognitive boredom,” says Gifford, and whether we break it up with cake in the staff room (mmmm, cake) or a brisk walk or a convivial chat around the water cooler, we need a pause that refreshes.

So, the big drivers of 52/17 are purpose (backed, I’m sure, with a hearty dose of motivation), distraction-free worktime, and flow.

FLOWTIME

The Flowtime Technique, as developed by educator Zoe Read-Bivens (writing as Urgent Pigeon for Medium) in 2016, was designed to take a major drawback of The Pomodoro Technique — that it interrupted the flow state  — and use performance analysis to improve productivity.

All of the above options count on working for a set time (25 minutes, 45 minutes, 52 minutes, 90 minutes), and then stopping at a pre-ordained time as prompted by an alarm. As noted, for some people who are neurodivergent, have ADHD, or are otherwise sensitive to loud noises or task transitions, this can be counterproductive.

As with all of the other methods, Read-Bivens’ Flowtime approach insists on uninterrupted work sessions, but instead of stopping when an external force (like an alarm) prompts you, you work until you start to feel distracted, or mentally or physically fatigued. Then you log how long your focused work session lasted — how long you stayed “in flow.” 

  • Pick a specific task from your to-do list.
  • Write down your start time for each task.
  • Work with focus as long as you can.
  • Write down the distractions taking you out of your flow state as they happen.
  • When you’re tired or hungry or muddled, stop.
  • Write down your stop time, and then note the total elapsed time you focused on the task. Basically, it works like a time sheet; you can use an app like Taskade or create a spreadsheet with cells formatted for time, and create a formula to calculate the elapsed start/stop time.
  • Take a break for however long you want.
  • Lather, rinse, repeat.

Without scheduled breaks, you’ll be less likely to anxiously await the “end” and be more likely to get into flow and stay there. Flowtime gives you flexibility to have productive sessions personalized to your work style, and it pushes you to be really clear on what’s interrupting your focus.

I can also imagine that if you get to know your cycles of productivity, it can help you block out your work time around meetings and other obligations so that you have adequate space in your schedule for your work without friction, and lead you to schedule your high-effort tasks when you’ve got the most mental energy.

On the other hand, there’s a lot of admin associated with this method, requiring planning beforehand and performance analysis afterward. It’s adding more work to your work. If you’re the kind of athlete who tracks your steps and reps and miles and measures performance to better know yourself, Flowtime might be ideal. However, if giving yourself no stopping time isn’t enough of a trade for all this admin, or if not having a limit on your break time might lead you to procrastinate on getting back to work, it may not be for you.

I suspect Flowtime might be best used when your work is creative in nature. I’d never encourage my clients who are artists to paint for 25 minutes and then take a break, and novelists probably shouldn’t be zapped out of flow by an alarm. If your entire job is creative, perhaps in the arts, or you’re needing to do brainstorming sessions for ad campaigns or client pitches, Flowtime might make sense. But if you’ve got lots of distinct (and perhaps not-entirely-creative) tasks to complete, one of the strict time-based methods seems like a better fit.


What methods to you use to get your activation energy, circumvent procrastination, and get your work done? Which methods might you try in the future?

Posted on: April 24th, 2023 by Julie Bestry | 12 Comments

 

Nothing is so fatiguing as the eternal hanging on of an uncompleted task. ~ William James

We all procrastinate. Everyone knows that it’s irrational to put off doing something until the quality of the work might suffer. It’s obvious that it doesn’t make sense to keep not doing something when the deadline is fast approaching. And yet, at least sometimes, everyone procrastinates.

WHAT IS PROCRASTINATION?

Contrary to what you might have been told in your childhood (or even more recently), procrastination is not about laziness. Rather, it’s a self-protective mechanism.

Research shows that we use procrastination as a technique to regulate our moods. More specifically, to regulate, manage, and prioritize a negative emotion in the present over the negative outcome of our procrastination in the future.

Instead of delving into the science and scaring you off with words like amygdala and prefrontal cortex, here’s a cartoon to ease you into what’s actually happening in your brain when you procrastinate.

WHAT TRIGGERS PROCRASTINATION?

The tippy-top expert on procrastination, Canadian professor of psychology Timothy Pychyl of Carleton University in Ottawa, is the author of Solving the Procrastination Puzzle.

According to Pychyl, there are seven triggers that cause people to procrastinate:

  • Boredom — Whether a child is delaying doing homework because the assignment isn’t challenging or an adult is facing a stultifying task (vacuuming, I’m looking at you!), doing anything stimulating (even if it’s counterproductive) may feel better than doing the boring thing.
  • Frustration — The task itself may be frustrating because it’s full of difficult, fiddly little steps, like putting together a spreadsheet from multiple sources of data or figuring out how to build an Ikea desk without any written instructions; or, you might be frustrated because the work involves dealing with annoying members of your team.
  • Difficulty — When something seems like it’s going to be too mentally or physically taxing, it’s comforting to procrastinate. Sometimes we tell ourselves that we’re preparing, or doing pre-work, to set the stage for the difficult task, but there are only so many pencils your teen can sharpen before settling in on that calculus homework.
  • Lack of Motivation — This may seem the same as boredom, but it’s actually more complex. Boredom is mostly about the task; some activities are just inherently lacking in stimulation. But motivation relates to internal drive. Even if you aren’t happy in your current role at work, you may not be that excited about applying for a new job (perhaps because of depression, anxiety, or fear of change). You have to see the benefit of working on your resume and prepping for an interview as steps toward a personal goal of being more professionally confident, rather than just items to be completed to “get a job,” which may not be inherently motivating.
  • Lack of Focus — Mental focus depends on physical and emotional stimuli as well as external stimuli. A variety of emotional concerns related to the task at hand — fear of failure, being embarrassed in public, losing a scholarship or a job — as well as unrelated issues like family or relationship troubles, or health concerns, can detract from your focus. Similarly, working in a crowded or noisy space, or even in an environment with visually distracting elements, can dilute your focus. Some people need to turn down the radio while driving to find the address they’re seeking; others need a tidy desk in order to read, even if the desk is outside their line of sight. You can’t focus if you’re hungry or tired, either.
  • Feeling Overwhelmed — Too much of too much will always keep you from taking clear action. In the professional organizing field, we talk about suffering from decision fatigue and often say, “The overwhelmed mind says ‘No’.” Have you ever stood in the toothpaste or shampoo aisle and been shocked by the ridiculous number of competing alternatives? Similarly, if there are many different ways to approach a talk (writing a blog, replying to an email, making a plan for a move), overwhelm may lead us to just physically or mentally wander away.

 

  • Being Overworked — Burnout is definitely a trigger for procrastination. If you’ve ever worked day-in and day-out on a project such that by the time you got home, you had literally no mental space or physical energy to do anything, even to prepare food, that’s a sure sign of overwork. Alternative options might be more or less pleasant (think: socializing or housework), but you might choose to lay on your couch and mindlessly scroll through social media instead of either thing you were supposed to do. Overwork eliminates the energy necessary for doing anything in the now, so everything gets pushed to a theoretical later.

Of course, Pychyl is not the only one to define triggers for procrastination. Others have identified fear of failure, impulsiveness (sometimes associated with ADHD), and generalized anxiety. Various executive function disorders can make it difficult to sequence or prioritize tasks.

The point is, procrastination is not laziness, but a conscious or even subconscious need to not feel icky now, even if you’re going to feel doubly icky later.

Procrastination is not laziness, but a conscious or even subconscious need to not feel icky now, even if you're going to feel doubly icky later. Share on X

PRACTICAL STRATEGIES TO COMBAT PROCRASTINATION

Obviously, once you identify your trigger to procrastinate, you can employ techniques to reverse the behavior. For example, if a task is boring, like housework or working out, you might pair it with music or a streaming TV show.

It also may be helpful to take away the temptations of more entertaining options. Lock your phone in a drawer — having to unlock it to play Candy Crush may give you the necessary pause to stick with your task. If you’re tempted by websites that are more entertaining than the work you’re supposed to be doing, lock yourself out of those websites (for whatever time period you set) by using a website-blocking program like:

Cold Turkey — works with Windows and MacOS

Focus — works with MacOS-only

Forest — designed for your phone, it works with Android, iOS, and in your Chrome browser

Freedom — works with Windows, macOS, iOS, Android, in as a plugin for Chrome

LeechBlock — works in various browsers, including Chrome, Firefox, Edge, and Opera (but not Safari)

Rescue Time — works with Windows, macOS, Android, iPhone, and iPad

Self-Control — works with acOS-only

There’s also Paw Block, which, while it only works as a Chrome or Firefox extension, has the benefit of showing you pictures of kittens from the around the internet when it prevents you from accessing distracting websites. 

If you’re frustrated by the elements or situation of the task, you might bring in a friend or colleague to help you do it, someone who doesn’t have the emotional connection to the stressors that are throwing you off. They don’t necessarily need to perform the tasks, but just body double with you so you feel soothed and less frustrated.

You can break down difficult tasks into the tiniest possible elements, or seek a supervisor’s guidance, so the annoyances seem less annoying. (It’s tricky in the moment, but you might also try to reframe “difficult” tasks as challenges and contests with yourself.)

If you’re feeling unmotivated, see if you can find a short-term reward. (Cake? Cake is always good! But a refreshing walk outside after finishing the first of three elements of a task may help you get your head back in the game.) For a deeper lack of motivation, work with a therapist or coach to help you identify the meaningful benefits you can get from doing the things at which you tend to procrastinate, or possibly find a life path that eliminates those tasks. (If creating PowerPoint slide decks gives you a stomachache, maybe you need to consider becoming a lumberjack or a lighthouse keeper. Not everyone wants to be an knowledge worker, and that’s OK!)

If your procrastination is due to floundering focus, determine what’s contributing to the lack of focus. If it’s internal (troublesome thoughts and emotions), consider meditation, walking in nature, and talking through the excess thoughts with a friend and/or in therapy.

But if it’s external, if you’re feeling attacked from all sides by an overload of sensory stimuli, you may need to declutter and organize your space or move your workspace elsewhere (or invest in noise-canceling headphones). But it’s possible you’ll want to see if an ADHD or other diagnosis might help support your efforts to get assistance dealing with distractions.

Overwhelm may seem a lot like frustration. While you may be frustrated by just one (big) annoying thing, overwhelm feels like you’re getting pelted with dodge balls from all directions. It’s a good time to sit down with someone who can help you see the Big Picture and identify the priorities and sequences. Professional organizers and productivity specialists excel at helping you battle overwhelm and get clarity.

And if you’re overworked and experiencing burnout, it’s time to have a realistic discussion with your partner, therapist, boss, and anyone else who can help you achieve balance before you suffer health consequences more serious than just the emotional distress related to procrastination.

In the short term, some meditation and schedule modifications might work, but if you’re experiencing chronic overwork, more intense career and life changes might be necessary. Start by revisiting my series on toxic productivity, below, and pay special attention to post #3.

Toxic Productivity In the Workplace and What Comes Next

Toxic Productivity Part 2: How to Change Your Mindset

Toxic Productivity Part 3: Get Off the To-Do List Hamster Wheel 

Toxic Productivity, Part 4: Find the Flip Side of Productivity Hacks

Toxic Productivity Part 5: Technology and a Hungry Ghost

EMOTIONAL AND INTELLECTUAL STRATEGIES TO COMBAT PROCRASTINATION 

Making changes in your space and schedule, breaking your projects into smaller tasks, and giving yourself rewards are all smart practical solutions, but they’re external. Changing your external world can only eliminate some of the obstacles to your productivity. To truly conquer procrastination, experts advise making internal changes as well.

Admit it! 

Denial is not just a river in Egypt. When you catch yourself procrastinating, acknowledge it. Once you call your own attention to the fact that you’re delaying doing the thing you’re supposed to be doing, you can look at that list of triggers and say, “Yikes! I’m avoiding writing this report. Why is that?” You can’t solve a problem if you don’t realize it exists. Admitting it gets you halfway to a solution.

Forgive yourself

This isn’t the same as letting yourself continue to procrastinate. And just like forgiving someone else isn’t the same as saying that the undesirable behavior never occurred, forgiving yourself gives you the opportunity to recognize that past behavior doesn’t have to dictate future performance.

A 2010 study by Michael J.A. Wohl, Timothy A. Pychyl, and Shannon H. Bennett entitled I Forgive Myself, Now I Can Study: How Self-Forgiveness for Procrastinating Can Reduce Future Procrastination found, as the title indicates, that students who forgave themselves for procrastinating on preparing for exams earlier in the semester were far less likely to procrastinate on studying for the next exams.

You’re human; if you were a perfect person … well, you’d be the first one ever. Forgive yourself for having procrastinated in the past.

Practice self-compassion 

Related to self-foriveness is self-compassion. Researchers found that people who procrastinate tend to have higher stress levels and lower levels of self-compassion, and theorized that compassion cushions some of the more negative, maladaptive responses that cause repeated procrastination.

Think of it as similar to overeating. If you cheat on your diet, low self-compassion might get you so down on yourself that you figure, “I’ll never lose this weight. I might as well just eat the whole ice cream carton!” But if you’re able to have self-compassion, you may tell yourself, “Yup, I did eat more than a half-cup serving of ice cream. But I understand why I did it. Next time, I’ll try drinking a glass of water and walking around the block first. Or maybe I’ll go out and eat the ice cream on the front porch, where the rest of the carton won’t be so accessible!”

(Seriously, whoever thought half a cup of ice cream was an adequate serving, anyway?)

Be intentional

All of the alternatives I described up above for seeking assistance and changing your environment (and the ones we’ll discuss next week) will only happen if you place your intention and attention on making changes.

Yes, this means a little extra labor on your part. If you know you procrastinate because you anticipate interruptions (from co-workers in the office or tiny humans when remote-working), you’re creating a problem before the problem exists, so you’re missing out on productivity before you need to and then again when the problem actually occurs. (And then you’ll spend the time after the interruptions being resentful about them, and that will lead to less productivity, too!)

Once you know what you’re up against and which triggers present a problem for you, build time into your schedule to plan your way around the obstacles and triggers. That might mean seeking out time with professionals who can help you, whether those are therapists, professional organizers, productivity specialists, or life or career coaches.

Embrace consistency

The various popular books on forming habits, like James Clear’s Atomic Habits, all agree that it starts with changing your identity, and seeing yourself as “the kind of person who” does things in a more agreeable, positive way.

 

One of the ways you can prod the formation of that kind of identity is to develop consistent actions and behaviors. In order to be the kind of person who goes to bed on time (and thus, can get up on time), you need to jettison the behavior of doom-scrolling for hours before bed. To consistently do that, you might set an alert on your phone for 8 p.m. to put the phone away, somewhere far from the couch or your bed. (Afraid you won’t get up on time if the phone isn’t near your sleeping area? Revisit my post from last summer, Do (Not) Be Alarmed: Paper Doll’s Wake-Up Advice for Productivity.)

Be a Self-Starter

You’ve heard me talk about activation energy before. In my post, Rhymes With Brain: Languishing, Flow, and Building a Better Routine, I wrote:

We also depend on activation energy. Because the hardest part of what we do is the getting started, we have to incentivize ourselves to get going. There are all sorts of ways we can trick ourselves (a little bit) with rewards, like pretty desk accessories or a coffee break, but the problem is that action precedes motivation. We’re not usually psyched to get going until we have already started!

Action precedes motivation. We're not usually psyched to get going until we have already started, whether it's a runner's high or Csikszentmihalyi's flow. Share on X

A huge key to breaking the procrastination habit is getting started. After all, Sir Isaac Newton’s First Law of Motion states that a body at rest tends to stay at rest and a body at motion tends to stay in motion. (OK, it actually says, “a body at rest will remain at rest unless an outside force acts on it, and a body in motion at a constant velocity will remain in motion in a straight line unless acted upon by an outside force.” But this isn’t Physics 101.) 

Did you watch the cartoon at the start of this post? (It’s OK if you skipped it; just scroll up and watch now and we’ll wait.) If you did watch, you know that you’re more likely to feel negative emotions about a task when you’re avoiding it, but when you’re actually doing the task, it doesn’t feel so bad.

So, get yourself in motion so that you can stay in motion! Get yourself past the hurdle of starting and that small victory of starting, and the realization that it wasn’t as bad as you feared, might make you less likely to procrastinate the next time you’re facing that same challenge.

GET STARTED AT GETTING STARTED

Once you’ve read all of the preceding advice, you still have to get your butt in the chair. (OK, yes, you could use a standing desk. Let’s not be pedantic!) There are two key ways to do that.

First, embrace accountability. As I’ve previously described in these various posts, borrowing willpower from others by getting support from “partners in crime” can be just the motivation you need to get started and stick with it, whatever the “it” is:

Paper Doll Sees Double: Body Doubling for Productivity

Paper Doll Shares 8 Virtual Co-Working Sites to Amp Up Your Productivity

Count on Accountability: 5 Productivity Support Solutions

Flow and Faux (Accountability): Productivity, Focus, and Alex Trebek

Second, even when you’ve got accountability support (and especially when you don’t), there are techniques for helping you get started on tasks in ways that feel hopeful, and that make finishing seem possible.

So, come back for next week’s post, Frogs, Tomatoes, and Bees: Time Techniques to Get Things Done, where we’re going to be doing a deep dive into a variety of well-known and sleeper strategies for eliminating procrastination. We’ll be talking about tomatoes and frogs, blocks and tocks, and so many numbers that you’ll think we’re in math class. (But I promise, just in case you tended to procrastinate on math homework, there will be no trains leaving Chicago at 120 miles per hour.)

Until next time, read more about the nature and causes of procrastination:

Why You Procrastinate  (It Has Nothing To Do With Self-Control) ~ The New York Times

Why People Procrastinate: The Psychology and Causes of Procrastination ~ Why People Procrastinate

6 Common Causes of Procrastination ~ Psychology Today

7 Triggers of Procrastination ~ ChrisBaily.com

Procrastination triggers: eight reasons why you procrastinate ~ Ness Labs


When you tend to procrastinate, what triggers tend to haunt you? What methods do you use to keep procrastination at bay?