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From Glitter to Macaroni (Part 2): Storing and Displaying Children’s Art

Posted on: June 24th, 2024 by Julie Bestry | 10 Comments

(DRAWING) THE CART BEFORE THE HORSE

Last week, in From Glitter to Macaroni (Part 1): Downsizing and Organizing Children’s Art, we looked at the key elements of digging out from under so that you’re house doesn’t have three-inch thick wallpaper layers of kiddie art.

To recap the key concepts:

  • Children live in the moment, enjoying the process of creating art for its own sake. They enjoy applause and appreciation, but by the next day, they’re usually ready to move on, so you should be, too.
  • Ask questions to show you’re curious about junior’s artistic choices and thinking.
  • Have a plan for collecting the art and host at least a weekly review where you figure out what to purge and what to maintain, at least for the near-term.
  • To help you cull the excess, focus on keeping masterpieces (original artwork) and let go of reproductions (coloring book pages, paint-by-numbers, etc.).
  • Record the name of the little artist and the date. 

If you regularly purge, you’ll feel more confident that whatever you store or semi-permanently display is the best of the best!

HOW TO STORE CHILDREN’S ART

As last week’s post explained, kids create so much art, and so quickly, that thinking you’ll put it all on the fridge or kitchen counter is a recipe for clutter. You need a plan for storage of any art projects that you hope to maintain (both short-term and long-term) without displaying. There’s just no room to show it all off!

Unfortunately, this is the one category of paper that doesn’t lend itself to the filing solutions we usually discuss, like vertical filing folders and three-ring binders with sheet protectors, such as we’d illustrated in Reference Files Master Class (Part 1) — The Essentials of Paper Filing. Those solutions work for pieces that are 8 1/2″ x 11″ emblazoned with only crayon or pencil, but thick paints, glitter, and glue often prevents paper from maintaining structural integrity and laying flat. 

Flat Files

In the professional art world, instead of vertical filing cabinets, art pieces and blueprints may be rolled for shipping or travel, but are generally stored in flat files, cabinets with short but deep metal drawers. The problem? Flat files tend to be expensive and ill-suited for children’s art created by anyone but Richie Rich.

For example, this small, 5-drawer Safco Products 4969LG flat file is $710!

At 32″ deep x 46.25″ wide x 16.25″ high, (after a proper culling of lumpy finger-paintings and nature studies made from small sticks and cotton ball clouds) you could probably store all of the elementary school art. But for $710 you could buy a Disney World four-park, four-day ticket and still have $300 left over for concessions, T-shirts, sun-block, and decades of memories!

 

While yes, the above flat file it will let you store pieces of up to 40-inches in depth, your child’s Kraft-paper, full-sized self-portrait could also just be rolled up to fit in the tube of a used-up roll of wrapping paper!

There are more affordable flat files with more storage space (covering less horizontal real estate), like this pretty Bisley 10 Drawer Steel Under-Desk Multidrawer Storage Cabinet, available in ten colors, including black, charcoal, light grey, a truly sickly green, navy, orange, red, steel blue, white, and as seen here, fuchsia.

At 15″ deep x 11″ wide x 24″ high, it’s a smaller profile solution that works if your prolific artists create relatively narrow (dimensionally-speaking) works. It’s “only” $260, and can be used for storing art and school supplies, too. But eleven inches of width and 15 inches of depth is decidedly small for the often-expansive creativity of a Mini Mary Cassatt or Tiny (tinier?) Toulouse Lautrec.

Given that, I encourage you to seek less expensive, more portable art storage solutions.

Clean Pizza Boxes

As I mentioned last week, a (clean, new) pizza box is the right size to handle the weekly collection of art creation. As your kids get older and you do seasonal and end-of-school reviews, these can be repurposed for winnowed longer-held collections.

Sure, you can tip your favorite pizzeria cashier to save you a few extra boxes when you pick your next pie, but do you want to be beholden to maintaining a friendly relationship with Mario to keep you in pizza boxes until your kids hit middle school (and stop creating art)? And when he goes off to college, are you prepared to start fresh with his replacement?

Assuming not, consider buying a stack of white, Kraft, or themed pizza boxes directly from Amazon or a restaurant supply store like Webstaurant Store. (I recommend white or Kraft boxes so that you can label accurately (“Jamie’s Artworks—1st Grade” or “Chris’ Creativity — 2024”) without cartoonish distractions.

These boxes often come in packs of 50 for about $30-$45, so split a batch with the other parents in your carpool or PTA. 

Just be sure to get boxes that are at least 12″ square, as most children’s art won’t fit in the 10″ x 10″ boxes. You can also select options that come in 14″ or 16″ (or even larger) sizes, so explore box style you want to see the different sizes available.

Try one box for each child for gathering a week’s worth of art for curation meetings, storing it on a shelf in the kitchen pantry or mudroom, and another more permanent box for each child into which you put the weekly “best-of” selections.

Art Portfolios Bags

Hard-sided art portfolios cases are a popular resource for professional artists to store work or carry their best pieces. However, children’s art tends to be larger and “lumpier,” so portfolio cases aren’t the best option. Instead, opt for large format portfolios and portfolio bags.

The standard is something like the Classic Red Rope, Paper Artist Portfolio with Soft Woven Handle. All versions come with a 2-inch expandable gusset, and comes in multiple sizes (14″ x 20″, 17″ x 22″, 20″ x 26″, 23″ x 31″, and 24″ x 36″), with prices ranging from $16-$24.

These are lightweight and constructed with heavy-duty recycled paper, ideal for inexpensive paper art storage. Find them on Amazon at the link above or in your local art supply stores. Stand these up along the back wall of a child’s closet or slide them behind a child’s bookcase or dresser to keep art tucked out of the way. You might also consider using using these in combination with pizza boxes, with the pizza boxes for weekly collection and the portfolios for longer-term storage.

For more visually stimulating storage options, you’ll find lots of zippered plastic/nylon portfolio bags, like this SUNEE 19″ x 25″ Art Portfolio Bag. The nylon strap and edging are sewn into the mesh cloth for extra durability, and it’s semi-transparent so you can immediately realize, “Ah, it’s Katie’s art collection.” 

Use one portfolio for each child, labeled with the name on the outside. Don’t try to combine different children’s art in the same storage, especially when they are small.

Aim to keep relatively equivalent numbers of art pieces (per week, per semester, etc.) for each child. If your kid makes it to middle school or high school and is still creating massive numbers of pieces — prolific creation is a rarity after 6th grade — then you have an actual artist on your hands and have my permission to treat this as an interest/hobby (much like sports or musical performance). But when your kids look back in adolescence to what you’ve retained from their tiny tot years, spare yourself family strife and aim for balance.

Capturing Memories

The location doesn’t matter as long as you have adequate space to keep these collections accessible (and file them away regularly). Remember, legal-sized filing cabinets will give you more length, but chance are good that what you need most is more width. If you fold children’s art to make it fit, the paint and glue will crack and flake; glitter will come loose.

You can also choose clear plastic bins to store the art that you decide to keep, memory box-style.

Whatever storage method you use, clearly label each box, bin, portfolio, or folder with the child’s name and the date range. As I noted last week, you may think that you’ll never forget when your Tiny Titian or Mini Matisse created each piece of art, but I guarantee you that 30 years from now, you won’t be able to tell which kid did which.

WHERE TO DISPLAY CHILDREN’S ART

Minimize the backlog, then consider which tangible pieces on display.

Identify a location for a rotating display.

Rotate the art regularly to keep it fresh. Display this week’s award winners and replace them frequently. (Remember, kids live in the moment, so don’t make VIP displays about a moment six months ago!)

Art galleries have both permanent exhibits and rotating ones that allow fresh, inspiring work to grab the attention of visitors. Permanent exhibits (like the collection of family photos on the wall next to the staircase) are lovely, but it’s the rotating exhibits that will catch the eye. The question becomes, where shall it all go?

The American standard is to display art on the fridge. This worked well when everyone had a big white (or avocado green) refrigerator that happily accepted a plethora of magnets. Nowadays, more and more of our boxy chill chests have non-magnetic fronts and are designed to be pieces of art themselves.

Before you run to the 1960s-Classic-Fridges-Are-Us Emporium for your next art wall installation, recognize that there are alternatives to hanging art where your lunch lives.

Invest in a large cork bulletin board.

Pick a bulletin board like you might see in a typical classroom, such as this one from Quartet.

Find full-sized, framed cork boards on Amazon or at office or school supply stores. Alternatively, buy individual cork tiles — array them in a uniform grouping or artistically around a child’s room or playroom — to affix to your walls.

Display the art as-is, right on the cork, or cover the entire board with dollar-store wrapping paper or kraft or butcher paper. Your kids can even draw on or decorate the paper, first, creating a meta-message of art-on-art, or add drawings and designs around the posted art.

Perhaps, use just one cork tile in a high traffic area of the home to showcase the Masterpiece of the Week!

The board does not have to be cork, per se. Customizable felt boards and panels, like these from Felt Right, can make a child’s bedroom or playroom wall bold and exciting as a background display option.

Princess Castle from Felt Right

Wallpaper an unfinished space, like a basement or work area.

Art can be a fun way to decorate your child’s room as well as any other casual area, like a guest room, mud/utility room, playroom or basement, whether you use a cork board or not.

The walls of a basement laundry room are likely to be gunmetal grey and depressing. Charming and colorful children’s art can brighten the area (and the mood of laundry day) immensely. Easily and safely attach artwork to walls with removable 3M’s Command-brand traditional or re-positionable Poster Strips.

Match your child’s magnetic personality!

Chalkboard paint allows children to create masterpieces directly on the wall, but magnetic paint is actually a storage solution for existing art.

Try a brush-on paint like Rustoleum’s Magnetic Primer or Magnetize It! Magnetic Paint & Primer so your wall surface will hold magnets for displaying artwork, schoolwork, and more. Alternatively, use a sprayable magnetic paint primer, like Krylon’s. Find them at Amazon or home supply stores, and then paint your wood, metal, masonry, drywall, or plaster walls.

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After the primer dries, cover with a colorful latex paint — use a solid color, stripes, or a pattern designed by your little artist. Magnetic primer generally goes on as grey or black, so apply multiple coats of the latex to get proper coverage. Then attach the artwork with decorative magnets. (Hey, that’s another art project your kids might like!)

Hang a retractable clothesline or cable.

Position a clothesline high enough that it’s beyond children’s ability (or consideration) to climb to reach. Attach paper artwork with clothespins. Paint wooden clothespins or use full-sized or miniature plastic ones in bright colors or funky patterns for a more kid-friendly atmosphere.

If you want something with a less DIY look, you can purchase an art display rod (with 48 clips) for $29.97, like this one from Willow and Eva on Amazon.

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For a little higher-end approach, Pottery Barn has a nifty Rainbow Dot Art Cable for $59 and a Magnetic Art Gallery Display for $79.

Try a Frame Job!

In the olden days, we created our own frames with Popsicle sticks, but times have changed. One modern classic are the L’il Davinci Art Frames from Dynamic Frames.

The L’il Davinci Art Frames are, yes, frames, but each also holds numerous other pieces of art (up to 50 pieces), so you can easily switch out what you wish to display at any given time.

They come in four sizes (8 1/2″ x 11″, 9″ x 12″x 12″ x 18″ and 18″ x 24″) and four frame styles (black, white, cherry, and natural), and you can hang the frames/cabinets in portrait or landscape orientation.

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The front-loading frames are a snap to open; push the art under the corners of the frame; the art hiding behind what’s on display is held under a spring-loaded backplate. Prices start at $37.50 for one, but they offer discounts on bundles. Shop directly from Dynamic Frames or pick them up on Amazon.   

TRY SOMETHING OFF THE WALL 

The spectacular art your little geniuses create need not displayed in the traditional way. You can create magnets, mugs, T-shirts, greeting cards, calendars and other gifts to share with your little ones’ fans.

Consider a variety of companies that allows you to upload children’s artwork and turn it into something tangible:

Book ’em.

(“Framed?” “Book ’em?” Children’s art demands criminally cute puns!)

How about art books? We GenXers were satisfied using a three-hole punch and “sewing” art together into book form with yarn. However, you can use a photo book publishing site like Shutterfly to digitize your children’s artwork into high quality photo books. There are even book creation options designed specifically for children’s art.

Do you picture yourself lending Medici-level patronage to your children’s art collections? Consider one of these higher-end services:

Artimus Art — Artimus Art’s concierge service has you send the actual art to them (rather than you having to take photos); they photograph the art, design, print, and bind the book, and ship it (and, if you want, the original art pieces) back to you. (They also have a DIY option.)

Artkive offers professionally photographed and edited books, as well as framed photo mosaics. You send your child’s art, they create a professional masterpiece as if your tot were Banksy. (Their ads are funnier.)

However, if you fall somewhat in between yarn-bound construction paper and fancy-pants book publishing, try one of these DIY options, where you upload photos of the artwork and design the book yourself:

CREATE A DIGITAL ART ARCHIVE FOR STORAGE AND DISPLAY

Not all art is “forever” art. Whatever is sticky, gooey, and glittery needs to go sooner rather than later. That macaroni art will attract bugs.

Not all art is *forever* art. The stuff that is sticky, gooey, and glittery needs to go sooner rather than later. The macaroni art will attract bugs. Share on X

But whether you intend to keep a particular piece of art on display until your grandchildren’s significant others can admire it or merely until the glitter-and-glue-stick era is over, a digital art archive is an easy solution that isn’t fraught with keep-or-toss guilt.

Even better, you can start easily with skills you (and your kids) already have:

  • Scan or snap: Digitally capture each piece of art. This method allows you to keep a record without physical clutter. The meta data ensures that you’ve got the date the photo was taken (so, it’ll at least be noted close to the creation date). Later, you can use your favorite photo app, whether Apple’s Photos or Google Photos or whatever to add notes regarding the artist and what it is (you think) they’ve created.
  • For their best work, take a photo of the art with the artist, as if it were a magazine profile. Tots these days are used to selfies and immediate photographic gratification. (Oh, how I remember my father standing us up for posed photos until our faces ached from trying to hold a smile, and we rarely saw those 35 millimeter shots in the same year, let alone season, in which they were taken.) Satisfy your little one with seeing their own toothy (or toothless) grins and their art work, and they can shuffle through the photo app whenever they like.
  • Take a photo of the artist with the ALLLLLL the art. Is your junior Frieda Kahlo filling the house with so many pieces each week such that the idea of doing the “Artist Poses With His Work” route and snapping photos all day, every day, exhausts you? Just have your little creator post with the entire week’s collection! If possible, hang the art and place your tiny human slightly off center in a gap between paintings. If there’s just too much, position your child on the floor and arrange the art around them; then stand on a bed or a ladder (with a spotter to safeguard you) and shoot from above to get the artist surrounded by the art. Easy peasy!
  • Post the art to social media. Create an Instagram or similar account and just post the weekly shots. Keep it completely private so you just have chronological family “album” online, or open it to friends and relatives. Though fewer than a decade ago, there are a whole slew of photo-sharing web sites to try if you don’t want to support mainstream social media and the evil billionaire overloads who profit from them. 
  • Use a journaling app (for children or adults) to create a chronological record that only family can access. 
  • Digital Display: Digital photo frame have gone seriously high tech. Years ago, you plugged a flash drive in; now, you can email directly to the frame to showcase scanned or photographed art collection. Not only can you display the art to a photo frame in your home (so your kids can see their own creations lovingly displayed) but you can make sure grandparents and other loved ones see the art without glitter filling their mailboxes.
  • Art Apps: Technology endlessly evolves. Try out apps apps like Artkive or Keepy to organize and store digital versions of your child’s artwork.

“Take a picture; it’ll last longer.”

That may have been childhood snark when someone was caught staring, but now, a digital photo is the ideal option for preserving children’s works of art. Plus, getting a shot of your little one holding the masterpiece provides a stellar historical record of the artist during his or her Blue Period.

Baby Paper Doll’s Blue Period

Suppress your instinct to use filters, color-correct green hair, or fix the spelling mistakes, the very things that make children’s art a delight.

And, of course, always maintain digital backups, whether in the cloud or on flash drives or external hard drives. Memory is cheap, but memories are priceless!

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From Glitter to Macaroni (Part 1): Downsizing and Organizing Children’s Art

Posted on: June 17th, 2024 by Julie Bestry | 10 Comments

I suspect that in the past (almost) 18 years, Paper Doll has covered the entire span of paper organizing topics. Just in the past few years, we’ve reiterated the essentials for all the documents that keep your financial, legal, medical, household, and personal life running:

We’ve also delved into specialty topics, like paperwork hoops to jump through for handling insurance, changing your name, helping a loved one with Medicare, or organizing recipes, and we’ve repeatedly looked at organizing solutions for storing and organizing papers:

However, after delving deeply into the Paper Doll archives, I found that it has been 13 years since I’ve visited the topic of one of the most unwieldy types of paper: children’s art!

With the school year ending and all those lockers, cubbies, and book bags getting cleaned out, this is the perfect time to refresh our look at children’s art.

ARE YOU STRUGGLING TO RUN AN ART GALLERY FOR TINY HUMANS?

Parents (and grandparents) sometimes find themselves with secondary careers as curators of pop-up museums catering to a very narrow category of visual media. Do you often imagine yourself the director of something along the lines of the Family History Museum of Kindergarten Arts and Crafts (FHMKAC) or the Modern Museum of Macaroni (MMM)?

With most types of paperwork, we can determine what to keep and for how long based on document destruction and records retention schedules, such as those I provide in Do I Have To Keep This Piece of Paper? 

For items without legal or financial rules, we can analyze the situation to see what makes the most sense. If we opt for paper instead of digital users manuals, a series of simple file folders and binders will suffice, and the documents can be discarded when we no longer own the gadget. Our clippings for a dream wedding or trip to Spain generally go away one the event or trip has passed and the photographic of the experience supplants the files. 

But children’s art? Figuring out how and when to let that go may be a toughie for several reasons. For example:

  • You’re a sentimental softie and it’s hard for you to let go of anything related to your kids. (You’re my client who kept the purple mimeographed instructions on how to get to the right school administrative office to register your child for first grade…in 1978.)
  • You haven’t got a clue what most of the art is supposed to be. Your toddler hasn’t quite managed enunciating, so you’re taking the stance that a picture is worth a thousand words.
  • You’re a fairly new parent and haven’t previously experienced the inundation of art that comes from tiny humans creating new projects every single day.
  • You are certain that your child is a prodigy. You assume everything is stellar and that museums someday be falling over themselves to acquire Little Dude or Dudette’s Early Period work.

Children’s Art Photo by cottonbro studio at Pexels

  • Your family of origin never organized art. Either your parents saved everything you created or it all went in the bin. If it’s the latter, you weren’t taught the tricks of separating wheat from chaff in the tiny tot art world. If it’s the latter, you may resent not being able to trace your MiniMe artistic path and resentment fuels your unwillingness to make judgements about your kid’s artwork.
  • You’re digital in almost every other area of your life. You receive and pay bills online, and rarely even receive mail. Your child’s school sends every message through a digital portal. You and your spouse keep everything in Dropbox or OneNote or Evernote. You may not even have experience managing paperwork of any kind, but paper without labels, dates, or clear categories makes your eyes glaze over.
  • You’ve tried to declutter, but the art has taken over. You’d wave a white flag, but every white piece of paper and white t-shirt in your home has already been turned over to your picayune Picasso. At this point, you no longer recall what color your refrigerator is because the doors and sides are covered with all of the major artistic methods: watercolor, oil(y Play-doh or sticky jam-hands), and mixed media (painted, sparkly macaroni)!

Never fear. Whatever your situation, there’s a path to making sense of all those artistic endeavors.

HOW TO CULL CHILDREN’S ART

When children are very young, every artistic effort may seem like a masterpiece, but soon enough, parents can become overwhelmed by the embarrassment of finger-painted riches. At some point, you realize you’re either going to have to start buying Frigidaires in bulk, or you’re going to run out of display space in the kiddie art gallery you used to call your home.

There are no records retention schedules for crayoned drawings of your family, each with out-of- proportion body parts in front of a boxy house with a yellow sun in the upper left corner of the page. Culling children’s art is neither an art nor a science, but a labor of love wrapped in papier maché and held in place with colored pipe cleaners.

Culling children's art is neither an art nor a science, but a labor of love wrapped in papier maché and held in place with colored pipe cleaners. Share on X

We’ll start with looking at the basics for winnowing the collection, and next week, we’ll move on to both standard and creative ways to display the artwork. Remember these general concepts:

Kids live in the moment

For children, the charm of creating of art is the experience making it. Unlike adults, they rarely create art to get adulation or social media likes. Whatever they’re doing right now is what matters to them.

Tiny Paper Doll in Deep Work Mode, Circa 1968

A toddler is enjoying the experience of goopy blue and yellow making green under his fingers.

A first grader delights in the representational aspect of getting the whole family, plus Bluey and Elsa, onto the front yard; the fact that Frozen’s princess towers over Dad is entirely beside the point.

New art is good art

Because kids are little art factories, the stuff arrives fast and furiously, and their favorite pieces are whatever they’ve made most recently. Praise it! Stick to age-appropriate questions and comments (“Is that blue?” “Wow, look how tall Daddy is! Oh, that’s actually a spider? What a cool spider!”)

Little Boy Creating Art Photo by Oleksandr P on Pexels

But know that they’ll move on from their blue periods with nary a glance backward, unless you make them think they’re supposed to care about the past efforts.

Be an art collector — for the short term

Don’t feel like you have to display all art, either immediately or at all. Your tiny human is new to the planet and doesn’t know there’s a cultural expectation of putting every piece of art on the fridge or on display in general.

Your tiny human is new to the planet and doesn't know there's a cultural expectation of putting every piece of art on the fridge or on display in general. Share on X

Maybe your child will angle to have art displayed (or at least shown off) each night when parents have returned home from work. If the tidiest and easiest way to do that is to display today’s illustrations on the fridge, that’s cool, but if possible, from an early age, consider this like a Today’s Specials board at a café. But tomorrow or next week, they can come down to make way for the next collection.

Perhaps your child is such a little art factory that morning crafts have been forgotten by the time the lunchtime juice box has been abandoned. Try to follow your little one’s cues instead of making too big a deal of the retention aspect. Again, they live in the moment, and so should you!

Separate the masterpieces from the reproductions

We’ve all seen the coloring-book outline of a human hand turned masterfully into a Thanksgiving Tom Turkey with the application of crayons.

Thanksgiving! Happy Thanksgiving Turkey Hand Print Magnet designed and sold by aarniviita on Teepublic

It’s the pre-school version of paint-by-numbers and is a mere reproduction. As you start thinking about what to keep vs. save, yield household space for the masterpieces, the originals that only your child could have made.  

Schedule a Weekly Curation Meeting

You are the head curator of this museum; the tots are your assistants. Give yourself permission to collect the week’s art and evaluate it all at once. A good option is a large (clean) pizza box, one for each child. It’ll corral the art until you’re ready for the weekly Curation Meeting.

  • Communicate — Once you develop a process, discuss it with your child on an age-appropriate basis. Your two-year-old doesn’t need to know why every finger paint and scribble seems to have a short-term showing; your first grader, however, needs to understand (and eventually participate) in the decision process.
  • Create limits and set boundaries — Explain that you have limited space and that by letting go of some art, you are making room to highlight new creations. This can be part of a larger, ongoing discussion with your children regarding how the world is filled with options but your home is for the most useful and beautiful things, and how making decisions about what to keep and what to send on its way is all part of life.
  • Choose the best — Involve junior in selecting a few special pieces from that week to keep. You may ask, “What’s your super-duper favorite?” but recognize that your child may have very different evaluative criteria, picking a piece because it was fun to make or because she got to share the best crayon with her BFF. You’re teaching decision-making and value assessment, but remember that perspective, especially with regard to art, is personal!

Mom and Child Discussing Art Photo by Ketut Subiyanto at Pexels

  • Allow for sentiment — For new new parents, the process may be difficult, especially when your child is too young to weigh in, and every piece feels like proof of a milestone achieved. At this weekly stage, it’s OK to keep items that have special significance to you, such as the first drawing that actually looks like something, particular holiday-themed art, or pieces that reflect significant moments in your child’s development.
  • Document the legacy — You may doubt me, but twenty years from now, you will be hard-pressed to figure out which of your formerly-tiny geniuses created that giant lizard-fish-horse-princess-robot. During your weekly curation meeting, pencil in the name of your little artist and the date on the reverse of the artwork.

Establish Regular Decluttering Rituals

Purging weekly is a great start to keep yourself from drowning in sparkly construction paper and 473 identical drawings of a tree. However, you’re going to want to establish periodic curation meetings to go back over the things you’ve kept during those weekly curation meetings.

When kids are younger, that might be monthly. Once they are in school, opt for a seasonal review. Go through the collected art at the end of each season or semester to decide what to keep and what to let go. If you fall behind throughout the year, at least be sure to wrap up the school year to collect what was most representative of the just-ended grade level. 

Make this decluttering ritual one that fits your family’s style, whether formal or casual. No matter the tone, establish a routine purging session, a special event where you and your child review and reminisce before making decisions. 

WHAT TO DO WITH ART YOU AREN’T KEEPING

Let’s face it. Not everything your child creates is going to go up on the wall of a museum. Most really need not go up on your fridge. (Yes, I’m sure grownup Angolo di Cosimo didn’t imagine his little drawing of a rich patron’s kid would be famous some day, but your two-year-old’s scribble using three different brown crayons just isn’t in contention for the Louvre or Uffizi.)

Portrait of Giovanni de’ Medici as a Child Holding a Goldfinch, circa 1545 by Agnolo di Cosimo. (I shot this at the Galleria degli Uffizi in Florence in September 2018.)

Toss

If it’s goopy, sticky, or critter-attracting, let it go (but do it after the kids go to sleep, as nobody needs to see their creations head to their ultimate resting places). If it’s got macaroni (or any other foodstuffs) stuck to it, let it go. Organic materials attract insects and creepy-crawlies, and while Mrs. Frisby and the Rats of NIHM might have literary merit, you don’t want the main characters coming by to sniff and taste the art at your house.

Recycle

If the artwork is on recyclable paper and not very sentimental, consider recycling it. For example, as long as it’s clean (and clear of organic materials), construction paper is recyclable. Make a point of knowing what types of paper are recyclable and which are not. For example, Kraft paper is recyclable, but tissue paper is not.

Gift

While you don’t want to inundate grandparents, older siblings off at college, or lonely neighbors with absolute mountains of art, it might help (when one or two pieces just barely fail to make the weekly cut) to share with loved ones. 

Kids who are just mastering writing can “sign” their masterpieces, and you can add a note to Grandpa to explain what the piece actually is, if it’s not quite representational art (assuming you have a good guess at the content).

Donate

Some organizations or nursing homes appreciate receiving children’s artwork to brighten their spaces. There are also organizations like Fresh Artists which will enlarge, print, and display art in public spaces supported by corporate sponsors. Explore your local and regional options.

Repurpose

For for giving older art new life for a shorter duration, try it as:

  • Gift Wrap: Use large-format art (such as the kind drawn on big rolls for Kraft paper) as unique wrapping paper for gifts. 
  • Craft Projects: Turn artwork into calendars, bookmarks, greeting cards, or other craft projects.
  • Collages: Group smaller pieces into a collage to preserve memories in a compact form.

 

Next time, we’ll look at how to store favorite pieces of children’s art (but seriously, just what makes the cut!) and how to display the special pieces. Until then, start thinking about the places in your home where you might brighten things with whimsical displays of really modern art.

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Organize to Help the Seniors in Your Life With Technology

Posted on: May 27th, 2024 by Julie Bestry | 14 Comments

We love technology. However, it does not always love us. 

Technology is not always (or even often) intuitive, which makes it hard to organize the technology and the content provided by the technology. This is especially true for our parents and grandparents (or ourselves, if we happen to be seniors).

Whether the seniors in your life embrace technology or eschew it, the digital realm has a lot to offer them. 

Health and Safety Technology

  • Wearable fitness trackers like Fitbit, Garmin, and Apple Watch (and associated apps) for tracking:
    • nutrition and calories burned
    • steps taken and stairs climbed
    • health metrics like heart rate, blood pressure and glucose levels
  • Reminder alerts and alarms for taking medicine and testing blood pressure and blood glucose.
  • Phone-based magnifiers for helping read medicine bottle labels and prescription instructions.
  • Phone-based cameras for supporting memory (noting parking locations, remembering hotel names and room numbers, etc.). 
  • Videoconferencing for telehealth allows seniors to stay connected with their physicians for regular visits and making inquiries without having to venturing out to drive in inclement weather or seek rides when an in-person appointment isn’t necessary.
  • Fall detection and emergency hotline hardware and software, or medical alert systems, allow seniors to get help if they suffer falls or medical emergencies in their homes, even if they are not positioned near their phones or are unconscious.

Paper Mommy and I call these the “I’ve fallen and I can’t get up” buttons after the grating commercials.

They range from wearables like bracelets and pendants to wall-based systems, and are connected through phone lines to base stations, so if someone suffers an emergency, they can “call” through that base station, like an intercom. If the user does not respond to the service’s inbound call, emergency services are dispatched. Common systems include Life Alert, Medical Guardian, and ADT Medical Alert.

Smart Home Technology

As with health technology, a variety of smart home technologies can make life easier and more convenient for all users, but especially seniors. These include:

  • smart lighting and blinds
  • smart plugs and timers that turn appliances off and on
  • digital monitoring systems for temperature control, CO2 detection, humidity, and air quality
  • smart thermostats
  • robot vacuums 
  • GPS-based trackers to locate lost items
  • digital doorbell cameras to help monitor who is at the front door (delivery staff, visitors, bad guys, etc.)

Digital monitoring and home management can make it easier for seniors with low mobility or low vision to be able to care for their homes and personal comfort with minimal effort.

For more on smart home tech for seniors, the New York Times’ Wirecutter site has a great piece on the 14 Best Smart Home Devices to Help Aging in Place.

Entertainment and Social Connection Technology

There is no age limit on enjoying books, TV, movies, or music, but the same technology that brings a wider variety of options into our homes, but these technologies are not always intuitive. It’s not that Spotify or Netflix is easier to to use when you’re 25 than when you’re 85, but those who have always lived with technology are quicker to note and understand user interface changes and make quicker guesses as to where missing options may be hiding.

Retirees who no longer interact with others in the workplace or at as many social gatherings as previously can benefit from all the modern offerings, including:

  • Smart TVs with cable or satellite programming
  • Streaming entertainment from mainstream services like Amazon Prime, Netflix, Apple+ TV, Hulu, as well as niche programming services like BritBox or BroadwayHD.
  • Music streaming services like Spotify, Apple Music, Amazon Music, or Pandora
  • Podcasting apps
  • Book and audiobook services and apps like Audible, Libby, and others that allow you to purchase entertainment or borrow from your public library.

When Tech Go Wrong

We’ve all dealt with the frustration of tech going wonky. The difference is that the younger we are, the more likely we are to recognize a problem that we’ve seen before and recall how to solve it. We’re more likely to visit the service’s FAQ pages or Google the problem. Seniors, however, may be both less likely to have experienced (or recall experiencing) similar problems and less adept at digital search and the right prompts to solve the problem easily.

When I got in the car to run errands this weekend, in place of the digital clock on my car’s navigation screen, it just said “–:–“ so I immediately went to the on-screen settings icon. However, on the resulting screen, the date/time icon was greyed out. I vaguely recalled this having happened once before, so I wasn’t immediately worried that my car was “broken” or that there was an expensive onboard computer problem.

First, I checked Twitter (I refuse to call it X) reports of widespread problems. Twitter is still my go-to for “is it happening right now” technology issues unless it’s an internet-based issue, in which case I follow the steps I described in Paper Doll Organizes the Internet: 5 Tools for When the Web Is Broken.

Then I Googled “Kia date/time setting greyed out and not working” on my phone. I got varying reports of it being a satellite issue that would self-correct; others suggested pulling one of two different fuses and/or resetting the onboard programming.

I can just shout, “Hey, Siri, what time is it?” so this wasn’t an emergency. Thus, so I didn’t get flustered, and figured if the problem continued I would check it out later in the weekend. An hour later, after a trip to Walmart (where the cashierless payment technology had everyone frustrated), I returned to my car to find the clock working again.

Now, take a moment to imagine your Great-Grandpa dealing with this clock kerfuffle, getting progressively more annoyed that the auto manual’s index and table of contents yielded no immediate solutions. Would he head to the search engines? Would he become agitated?

We all love technology and we all hate when tech doesn’t work as it’s supposed to. The only difference is that the younger we are, and the more privileged (financially, socially, educationally) we are, the more exposure we’ve likely had to potential solutions. The best thing we can do to make technology easier for our elders is to help them when we can, and connect them to others who can help them when we are not able to do so.

HOW TO HELP THE SENIORS IN YOUR LIFE WITH TECHNOLOGY

Let’s get the giggles out of the way, first.

Don’t laugh at them. When possible, do laugh with them.

This should be obvious. But it’s also hard. While serving as Paper Mommy‘s tech support over the phone, I kept trying to point out the lock icon so that she could recognize secure websites.

Because we couldn’t see one another’s screens, I was trying to give her landmarks, and I could tell she was looking in the right location in the URL bar at the top of the screen, but she kept not seeing the lock icon. Finally, Paper Mommy, frustrated, insisted “It’s not there! The only thing there is something that looks like a little purse.”

By Santeri Viinamäki, CC BY-SA 4.0 

Um. OK. I had to laugh. While yes, to anyone thinking in terms of technology, that secure URL icon is a padlock. But if you’re in your 70s or 80s and haven’t been technology-focused for your entire adulthood, yep, it’s a purse. A green handbag. 

Start with, and explain, the basics. Use proper lingo when you can, but if your person just can’t get a handle on remembering the term “scroll bar,” try saying, “Do you remember the vertical bar that makes the screen move up and down, like an elevator?” Use vivid, memorable language, and be prepared to backtrack. Often. 

Let them make mistakes. Many seniors are afraid that they will “break” the computer or gadget by clicking on the wrong link. Assuming you’ve covered the basics of avoiding phishing and other scams (see below), assure them that changing settings isn’t going to void the warranty or damage the software or the hardware.

Do not condescend. If this senior is your senior (parent or grandparent), remember how many times they needed to help you learn how to use a spoon or spell your name. 

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Be patient. Go slowly and be as patient as you can be. (And if you can’t be patient with your mom even though you are known for being patient with clients or colleagues, recognize that you and your favorite senior will have different perspectives, and find them an alternate IT help desk, once that doesn’t look like you.)

Explain online dangers and prepare them for what they should NEVER do. Technology doesn’t need to be scary, but it often is, and especially so for seniors. Teach the seniors in your life about phishing scams, how to identify the true source of emails (by hovering over the sender name and looking at the actual domain name of the address), how to look for secure sites (and the “purse”), and how companies and banks and the government will never call or email and ask for passwords or other information.

For more on this, refer to my post from March, Slam the Scam! Organize to Protect Against Scams.

Teach them where to look for resources and how to ask search engines for help. My mom once called me because every bit of text on her Facebook screen had turned German. I knew immediately that this was because Facebook had a word cloud of language names in the lower right-hand corner of the screen.

If you were holding an iPad (as she was) on the right side, it would be easy to press your thumb on one of the languages and change your settings. (Facebook has since moved this element off the main screen.)

I’d once accidentally turned my Facebook default language to French, and had to Google the solution, and my Google-fu is pretty strong. However, to the uninitiated senior, it can be tempting to ask a question as you might ask someone sitting next to you on the couch: “Why is my Facebook in German?” However, to yield a more helpful answer (at least until our AI overloads take complete control), a better query might have been, “revert Facebook default language from German to English.”

Search engine language is not intuitive, but we can all — including seniors — learn better queries to find help more quickly.

Customize accessibility settings when seniors get new devices. Sometimes, just making text larger or addressing basic accessibility issues will make the entire navigation process easier for them. 

BUILD ON INITIAL GUIDANCE WITH MORE COMPLEX TECH SUPPORT

Use Screen-Sharing Technology Options

If you’re helping a senior long-distance, it can be maddening for both of you. They may feel rushed, and you might be knocking your head against the wall because they can’t “see” what you know or believe to be right there!

At minimum, seek solutions that grant you remote screen viewing so you can see what they’re doing at their end and provide tactical directions. Be aware that there’s often a delay between what they’ve done and what you see, so just as when you’re working on the phone, try to discourage them from jumping multiple steps ahead.

In addition, there are remote access software programs and apps that allow you to manipulate someone else’s device from wherever you are. This is how the help desks at Apple and other big software and hardware companies guide you through IT troubles. Unfortunately, it’s also how scammers get access to your loved one’s computers, so it’s important that they understand not to provide this access to anyone they don’t know unless they are seeking the help of an authorized, respected technology expert and NOT someone who randomly calls and claims that “There is a problem with your Microsoft computer.” (There isn’t.)

I used to help Paper Mommy and my virtual clients with LogMeIn, which is now $30/month) However, there are still free and affordable options for providing remote tech support to your beloved seniors, including:

All of the above options will work whether you and your senior have the same platform (Apple or Windows) or are mismatched. Other options require you to be using the same platform.

  • Apple Mac users have a few options. If you’re both using Apple computers, you can make use of the free Apple Remote Login, but as with the Chrome option above, you’ll need to set it up in advance.
  • Alternatively, without any advanced prep, (and again, if you’re both using Macs), you can use “Screen Share” from within the Messages app:
      1. Open the Messages app on your Mac.
      2. Select a conversation with your senior relative or friend. (If you haven’t ever texted with them, start a new conversation.)
      3. Click the “i” button in the upper right-hand corner of the window. A set of options will drop-down.
      4. Click “Share.” 
      5. Ask your senior to share their screen. (Alternatively, they can also go to this same menu and invite you to view their screen.) They’ll get a pop-up requesting permission to share their screen with you. They need their “Control My Screen” option selected and should click “Accept.” From this point, you can control their Mac and show them what to do, step-step, or fix problems yourself.

Finally, I find it helpful to initiate a Facetime (Mac-to-Mac) call before starting the process, but you can also speak on the phone while troubleshooting.

Write Down Instructions, Step-By-Step

Don’t expect seniors to remember intricate processes they’ve only seen once or twice, or to intuit the workings after minimal practice.

When one of my clients (senior or otherwise) is learning new processes on the computer or another device, I teach the step and then write it down on a numbered list. Once we’re all done, I create a title with “if,” such as “If you want to listen to your new voicemails…” or “If you want to download an app from the App Store…”

Make a notebook of these lessons so your senior can flip through the pages, or even create an index in the front. (And yes, can type these lessons and store them in Notes, Dropbox, or Evernote if that’s something your senior is comfortable navigating.)

HOW TO OUTSOURCE TECH SUPPORT FOR SENIORS

Do you and your senior end up fighting when you try to help with tech? Sometimes, the best way to help is to arrange alternate help. (This is why, when adult children and their seniors spar over downsizing, bringing a professional organizer in is the best option.)

Outsource To Your Teenager(s)

Assign your teens to help their grandparents (or neighbors or friends who are grandparent-ish age).

Photo by Andrea Piacquadio 

Too few young people have the opportunity to learn from older generations, and this kind of bond can be good for both groups. Seniors will feel younger when engaging with teen family members, and the teens can connect with grownups with different perspectives on career, family, life, and history. (And shockingly, they’ll be more patient with Grandma than they are with you.)

AARP’s Senior Planet

Senior Planet is a free technology service sponsored by AARP, but you don’t have to be an AARP member to use it. (That said, at $16/year for anyone over 50, AARP’s discounts and educational resources definitely make it valuable.) 

Senior Planet offers in-person virtual sessions, in-person classes in major cities, and online classes, like “How to Choose a New Computer.” There’s a hotline for those who need immediate assistance for simple questions. It’s available weekdays from 9 a.m. to 8 p.m. Eastern, during which Senior Planet’s “technology trainers” (employees and volunteers) can answer questions about email, texting, app notifications, video conferencing, and other tech conundrums.

Anyone needing personalized tech help can call the hotline at 888-713-3495 or fill out a form to schedule a help session.

Cyber Seniors

Cyber Seniors is a volunteer-based, non-profit organization and is available at no cost to users. Most volunteers are in their late teens and twenties and have training to serve as “digital mentors” to seniors. Think of it as digital natives guiding digital immigrants through the cyber world.

Cyber Seniors provides both one-on-one individualized support and as well as group education.

For individual needs, fill out a request form with general information(contact email, birthdate) and situation (device type, etc.), and then select an appointment date and time for a volunteer to contact you by phone. Once the mentor calls, you explain what you’re trying to do (e.g., attach a photo to an email, set up a Facetime call, change the settings in a program). Users can request a specific mentor by name or work with anyone on the CyberSeniors team, so if Grandma meshes well with a certain person, request a repeat session.

Cyber Seniors offers weekday group webinars over Zoom on tech and cybersecurity (and other) topics, and recorded prior webinars are also accessible.

GoGo Quincy

GoGoQuincy, promising “tech support for non-techies” started as a service to help seniors with but has expanded to assist anyone, no matter the age, with technology difficulties. For up to one call per month, the service is free; after that, there’s a $5/month fee plus $11 per call, so if there’s any chance you or your senior might be making more than two calls a month, the unlimited plan (for $19/month) is the way to go. (Reviewers note that experts didn’t try to upsell memberships or get callers to sign up for the paid service. Still, I’d encourage exhausting free options first.)

GoGo Quincy has a telephone hotline if you need immediate technology assistance; otherwise, schedule a session through the GoGo Quincy website.

Hire a Technology Specialist

Your best bet for a loved one (or yourself) maybe to hire a professional technology consultant. I have senior clients who are active in their non-tech lives but for various reasons need support with their web sites, social media, or ever-more-complex devices, and having a paid consultant, either on retainer or paid per call, gives them confidence that they’re getting professional level services.

Online, you can find a variety of in-person and virtual technology coaches, like Tech Coaches or Candoo Tech.

Additionally, there are professional organizers, working both locally and virtually, who can assist with making technology more accessible. My technology-minded colleagues in the National Association of Productivity and Organizing Professionals (NAPO) can be found by going to NAPO’s website and conducting a search, as follows:

  1. Go to NAPO.net.
  2. Select “Professional Directory” from the FIND A PRO drop-down menu at the top of the screen. Alternatively, you can scroll down the page past the photo banner to where you see the words the following:
  3. On the resulting search page (which defaults to a radius search), type in the requested information and select Digital Organizing from the residential organizing drop-down. The screen will refresh, giving you professionals guide you in organizing your technology.

Consider Artificial Intelligence

It’s not always ready for prime time, but there are AI options for getting tech support when humans aren’t available. One option is HelpMee.ai, which promises patient, voice-enabled conversations and screen sharing to guide seniors step-by-step through computer problems.

HelpMee.ai has multiple price points, from a free trial for 20 minutes of support, to three different levels of monthly support ($9.99/month for 1 hour, $19.99/month for four hours, and $24.99/month for 8 hours of support.

With all of these options, seniors can enjoy the benefits of technology while minimizing the frustrations. Don’t give up on helping your seniors with tech, and don’t let them give up, either!

If you have your own favorite tips and services for helping seniors with technology, please share in the comments.

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52 Ways to Say NO to a Request So You Can Say YES to Your Priorities

Posted on: May 20th, 2024 by Julie Bestry | 14 Comments

Do you ever find yourself avoiding contact with other people out of sheer self-preservation and fear that they’ll ask you to add one more unfulfilling task or obligation? 

Recently, I read Ali Abdaal’s Feel Good Productivity: How To Do More of What Matters To You. The book serves as a sort of primer on the various macro and micro productivity concepts and strategies that we discuss at the Paper Doll blog. The book accents engaging in tasks that will increase your energy rather than drain it.

Abdaal’s idea of an “energy investment portfolio” particularly caught my attention. At its most basic, the energy investment portfolio is a deeply prioritized and categorized plan of attack, such as we reviewed when talking about the Eisenhower Matrix in posts like Use the Rule of 3 to Improve Your Productivity and Frogs, Tomatoes, and Bees: Time Techniques to Get Things Done.

Part of this approach is based in clarifying which of the things on your list are your someday “dream”  investments (your big, ambitious projects for which you likely have little time right now) and your “active investments” (projects and tasks which you are or should be giving your greatest attention right now). 

The key to Abdaal’s energy investment portfolio, an homage to a financial investment portfolio, is  limiting the number of projects on your list of “active investments.” There’s only so much you can do right now, and those things better energize you if you don’t want to hide from them.

To explore this concept more before dipping into the book, check out Abdaal’s The Energy Investment Portfolio article and the video below:

This popped to the forefront of my mind as I started reading Cal Newport’s newest book, Slow Productivity: The Lost Art of Accomplishment Without Burnout. (Slow productivity, like the slow food, slow media, and slow travel movements, is about improving life by cutting back on speed and excess, and instead focusing on intentionality and quality.)

Newton caught my eye with an extended discussion of my beloved Jane Austen. Most biographies always paint her as successful because she would sneak in writing efforts in the precious few quiet moments she had to herself. Newport notes that her nephew James Austen’s descriptions of Austen’s writing style seem “to endorse a model of production in which better results require you to squeeze ever more work into your schedule” and calls this a myth. 

Indeed, modern biographers have found the reverse, that Austen “was not an exemplar of grind-it-out busyness, but instead a powerful case study of something quite different: a slower approach to productivity.”

As true Austen aficionados know, once Austen (as well as her sister and elderly mother) moved from Southhampton to quiet Chawton cottage, she was able to escape most societal obligations and focus on writing. Quoting from Newton:

This lesson, that doing less can enable better results, defies our contemporary bias toward activity, based on the belief that doing more keeps our options open and generates more opportunities for reward. But recall that busy Jane Austen was neither happy nor producing memorable work, while unburdened Jane Austen, writing contentedly at Chawton cottage, transformed English literature. 

Dubious? Look at the entries on this Jane Austen timeline, starting from 1806 onward! And let’s face it, without Austen, there would be no inspired homages, like Bridgerton, and for any of you who just spent the weekend transfixed by the first half of season three, that’s a fate not worth contemplating.

I’m sure I’ll have more to share about this book as I get further on, but I was captivated by the chapter on Newport’s first principle of slow productivity, based on this finding. Principle #1 is simply Do Fewer Things.

Strive to reduce your obligations to the point where you can easily imagine accomplishing them with time to spare. Leverage this reduced load to more fully embrace and advance the small number of projects that matter most.

YOU ARE ALLOWED TO SAY NO

From Abdaal and Newton to past Paper Doll posts, we know we have to focus our attention on fewer but more rewarding things. 

We must learn to emphatically say NO.

Yes, you have to pay your taxes (or be prepared to suffer the consequences). You have to obey traffic laws. (Ditto). You have to feed your children (or at least arrange for them to be nourished).

But you do not have to be in charge of cleaning out your company’s break room fridge.

You do not have to buy your spouse’s birthday gift for your mother-in-law. (That’s your spouse’s job.)

You do not have to join a book club or serve on your homeowner association’s planning committee or go to dinner with someone you really don’t want to date!

There are various situations when we should be saying no to taking on new obligations.

  • You have more on your plate than you can handle comfortably (or safely for your mental or physical health).
  • Your energy level is depleted (or you believe it would be depleted) by anything being added to your obligations.
  • The new task doesn’t fit your skill set or interests.
  • The task is unappealing because of the situation (the location, other people involved, the monetary cost)
  • You just don’t wanna.

In a perfect world, “I don’t wanna” would be a good enough excuse for saying no to things outside of work obligations or happily-agreed-upon life obligations. But few of us can get away with it, Phoebe Buffay excepted.

THE POWER OF SAYING NO

Organizing is as much about saying no as saying yes. Thus, I help clients determine what tangible possessions belong in their spaces and their lives, and which don’t. Some acquisitions were wisely planned purchases; others were picked up on impulse. Some are gifts given out of love, while others were given out of a sense of obligation. Still other things were abandoned on our metaphorical doorsteps (or, in the case of grown children who have flown the nest, things were abandoned in our basements, attics, closets, cupboards and corners).

Just as clients must discern the difference tangible items that make their lives more appealing, robust, and fulfilled vs. those that crowd them out of their spaces, they must also evaluate how acquired activities can clutter their hours and days and diminish enjoyment of other experiences.

Some activities, we choose with enthusiasm; others have been pressed upon us. Perhaps your early May serf imagines that the late September version of you will be delighted to give a speech or take on another committee role. Frustratingly, we always imagine that Future Us will be less busy.

And we have all occasionally been guilted or cajoled into obligatory participation. Some tasks or roles have acceptable tradeoffs. I know that Paper Mommy didn’t enjoy the blessings of being a “room mother” year-after-year, going on field trips to the nature preserve or the science museum and having to help corral other people’s unruly offspring.

But (luckily) she enjoyed hanging out with tiny Paper Doll, and the experience gave her opportunities to tell hysterical anecdotes to her friends. You may not necessarily want to serve on the awards committee, coach your child’s soccer team, or help interview new applicants at work, but the benefits sometimes outweigh the costs. The key, however, is to protect yourself from requests for your time and labor that drain your energy and cause resentment by taking time away from your larger priorities.

If you don’t have the power to say no, freely, then you don’t really have the power to say yes.

Whether stuff or tasks, things should enter your life with your consent. But if you’re unused to declining, it will require effort to exercise new mental muscles. The rest of this post offers strategies to help you avoid being saddled with the clutter of new obligations and eliminate tasks that no longer fit your life, or at least the life you want to lead.

GET RID OF THE GUILT

There are many reasons why people fear saying no, but they almost always come down to fearing others’ reactions.

Sometimes, this has to do with social roles and the belief that our life’s role is to do for others. But remember my Flight Attendant Rule: You must put the oxygen mask over your own nose and mouth before attending to those traveling with you. Overloading yourself makes it impossible to be there for others, whether at your job, in your family, or among your friends or in your community. (And think back to what Abdaal said about investing your energy.) 

Guilt also comes from the fear that saying “No” will make you sound mean or unduly negative. The examples below will help you craft responses that are firm in guarding your boundaries but upbeat and positive in attitude so as to cushion your response in a way that feels more like kindness than rejection.

And in each case, the response means “No” without ever verbalizing the word.

FIRST, TAKE A PAUSE

Being polite is a given; being kind is a virtue. Imagine you’re having a rough day. You’re rushing to get to a client meeting but your tiny human is just not interested in putting on her shoes so you can get everyone into the car. Traffic is bad, and just as you get everyone unloaded, a PTA parent corners you with an “assignment.”

It would be instinctual to lash out and say, “Can’t you see I’m drowning? Can’t you see my nice suit for a presentation has dried cream of wheat on it because the tiny humans decided to have a food fight? What in the blankety-blank-blank makes you think I give a good bleep-bleep about organizing school spirit day?! I have no spirit, why should I care if everyone shows up wearing the same colors and why should I be the one to tell them to do it? Is your life so ridiculously so small and pitiful that school colors matter at all?!”

Instinctual, but halfway through that tirade, you’d notice parents making their own tiny humans back away from you, and furtively glancing at one another, and possibly at the school security guard. Your youngest is two, but you can now imagine parents giving you (and your kids) wide berth until all your offspring have graduated. (The one upside is that nobody will ever ask you to volunteer again!)

Instinct can make you blow up; taking a moment to pause and having a plan in place to say no without feeling like you’ve become a wild banshee may preserve your reputation (allow your kids to be able to invite friends over…someday).

NEXT, SHOW GRATITUDE

Start by thanking the person making the request.

Thank them? I can hear you screaming from here.

Yes, get in the habit of thanking people for asking for your help, whether you’re being asked to do something prestigious like speak at a conference or something that’s basically scut work. There are so many people, particularly those who are elderly or in the disability community, whose potential value is ignored by society, so take a moment to appreciate being considered at all.

Don’t thank them just because it’s polite; thank them because it gives you a moment to feel valued and appreciated, and because it forces you to pause and gather your resolve.

Begin with something like:

  • I appreciate you thinking of me for this.
  • Thank you for making me feel valued in our community (or workplace) 

Whatever you say after, you’ve softened the blow:

  • Thank you for considering me for this role, but I have to decline [for reasons].
  • I’m honored that you thought of me for this, but I have to pass [this time].

PICK AN APPROACH

Not every request requires the same style of response.

Assertive Stance

When dealing with an equal, whether professionally or socially, address the person in a straightforward manner, making clear that the rejection is not about them (or their pet project) but about you.

This way, you avoid them giving all sorts of reasons why they’ll be able to wave their magic wants and eliminate the aspect of the project you see is problematic. But focus on yourself, and there’s little most people can say.

(Obviously, if you encounter someone who thinks you should give up caring for your ill grandmother so you can do bus duty at the child’s school, you have my permission to fake-call your grandmother in front of this person to make them uncomfortable. Really go for it. “I know you need me to change your catheter/clear your feeding tube/relieve you of your unremitting loneliness since Grandpa died, but Betty here says she doesn’t feel you’re as important as bus duty.”)

State your situation without getting into the weeds. Focus firmly on setting and maintaining your boundaries, and use “I” statements to keep the rejection focused on what you can control. 

  • Unfortunately, I have to decline this opportunity. My plate is already full.
  • I’m sorry, but I can’t take on any more projects at the moment.
  • I need to focus on my existing priorities right now.

If you’re comfortable expressing your personal needs, expand your explanation to reference that you are focusing on your pre-existing obligations, self-care, and personal well-being. (You can similarly reference your family’s needs. Use that Grandma guilt!)

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  • I’ve promised my children/spouse that I won’t take on any more activities that keep me away from the family. I’m sure you understand.
  • I need to decline this to maintain my work-life balance.
  • I’m prioritizing my health and well-being right now, so I can’t commit to anything extra.
  • I’ve learned to recognize my limits, and I can’t stretch myself any thinner.
  • I’m trying to prioritize my well-being, and taking on more isn’t conducive to that.
  • I’ve realized I need to make more time for myself, so I have to decline.

If someone tries to bulldoze through your boundaries, politely but firmly reiterate your stance. Don’t let their lack of civility hamper your skills at standing up for yourself. Be prepared to say something that shuts down the conversation.

  • Again, I’ll have to decline. It’s just not feasible for me right now.
  • As I said, I appreciate the offer, but I have to say no.
  • That won’t be possible.

Gentle Stance

Sometimes, you don’t feel that your professional or social relationship with the requesting individual is equal. For whatever, you may feel that you have to be more diplomatic or offer explanations that the other person will feel is more valid. There are a few ways to approach this.

The best way to approach this is to express enthusiasm for the offer and/or the project or regret that you can’t participate, or a combination, before identifying intractable obstacles. However, be cautious in how effusive you are about your enthusiasm and/or regret so as not to overplay your hand. 

  • This sounds fascinating. I wish I could say yes, but I have to decline because [reasons]
  • I’m sorry, but I won’t be able to participate because [commitments/reasons]
  • I’d love to help, but I’m already committed [to several specific prior obligations]

There are two variations to the gentle stance: delaying and being helpful.

Delaying Approach

Instead of an outright no, it may be useful to suggest the possibility of a postponement of your involvement. However, I caution you to only use this method if it’s realistic. It’s not fair to get someone’s hopes up that they will be able to count on you in the future, so only use this method if you believe it’s likely you will be able to help at some later point (or you believe there’s no likelihood you’ll be put in this situation again). It might sound like:

  • Ouch, there’s so much on my plate right now, so I’m not able take this on at the moment. Can we revisit this in [specific timeframe, like next semester or 3rd Quarter]?
  • I can’t commit right now, but let’s touch base after the holidays and see if my availability has changed.
  • I’ve decided to focus more on my career right now. Maybe next season.

Maybe your rejection isn’t because of the project or the time it will take up, but a specific aspect (you don’t want to work with on a committee MaryJane or you’re not comfortable attending the meetings because you’d have to drive home in the dark). Delaying allows you to revisit the request in the future and inquire about changes in circumstantial.

Helpful Approach

Sometimes, your “no” reflects your specific circumstances, but you do value the project, organization, or effort. If so, expand upon the ways of declining above, but add helpful suggestions or offers, like:

  • That won’t be possible, but I’m able to send you some bullet points on how I accomplished goals during the eleven (freakin’) years I served as committee chair!
  • I’m not able to take on this role, but I’d be happy to donate [X dollars, or my backyard, or my unused bongo set].
  • I’m really not qualified, but let me tell you who would be perfect for this.
  • So, yeah, based on everything I just said, I can’t do this, but TJ just rolled off the nominating committee and might be looking for some new role.
  • I’m not the right person for this, but this is right up Diane’s alley. She’s got an accounting background and is already at the school on Tuesday nights while her daughter is at drama club.

Obviously, don’t volunteer for a lesser role if you have no interest, and don’t suggest other people for something you know they’d be miserable doing (unless you really, really don’t like them).

Sometimes, the helpful approach isn’t for the other person, but for you. There will be times, usually in the workplace, where you will be asked to do something where, though the task is couched as a request, it’s really an order. You won’t be able to say no (and indeed, we would need another whole post, or possibly a book, to cover handling this).

If you’re asked to tackle something where you lack the skill set, the desire, and the time to handle this new project and everything else on your plate, don’t panic. Thank the person for their confidence in you (again, always start from a position of gratitude unless you’re actually ready to quit the job), reiterate all of your (work) obligations and ask for guidance in prioritizing. 

Two more options you might want to use, in combination with other responses, are flattery and humor.

Flattery

Sometimes, you can inveigle the other person into deciding they deserve better than what you are (un)willing to give:

  • Thank you for thinking of me, but I have too many obligations right now. I wouldn’t want to risk not giving this important project the attention it deserves.
  • Thanks, but I would rather decline now than risk doing a mediocre or rushed job. Your [project/committee/idea] deserves someone’s best effort.
Humor

In J.D. McClatchy’s Sweet Theft: A Poet’s Commonplace Book, writer and translator Estelle Gilson shares a translation of a rejection issued by a Chinese economic journal to someone who had submitted a paper. 

“We have read your manuscript with boundless delight. If we were to publish your paper, it would be impossible for us to publish any work of lower standard. And as it is unthinkable that in the next thousand years we shall see its equal, we are, to our regret, compelled to return your divine composition and to beg you a thousand times to overlook our short sight and timidity.”

The first time I read it, I laughed at the audacity of the hyperbole (even as I accounted for the cultural expectations likely inherent in the message). However, upon rereading, I recognized that while the Chinese recipient may (or may not) have found the rejection funny enough to be uplifting, humor may help you powerfully judge the “no” to a softer landing.

Lightening the mood makes it easier to state the refusal. You’ll feel more like you’re performing a “bit” and it’s just a touch distracting for the person on the receiving end. You don’t have to actually be funny ha-ha, but goofiness, snark, or hyperbole can dissipate the tension (or give you time to think of an exit line).

  • I tried cloning myself, but it did NOT go well. The FBI made me destroy my machine. 
  • If I agree to this, my cat might stage a protest. Can’t risk a kitty rebellion.
  • I’d love to help, but my superhero cape is at the dry cleaners.

Humor help you decline a request, but always employ a light touch to make sure it doesn’t come across as dismissive or rude.

Obviously, the appropriateness of humor will depend on the power structure of your relationship with the person whose request you’re declining and the context of the request. Saying no to your mother-in-law when she asks you to plan her 50th anniversary party is going to take a more deftness than telling your neighbor that you don’t want to join his Star Wars fan-fiction book club.

Remember, you are not asking for permission to say no. You are engaging in polite (and hopefully kind) communication in navigating the tricky negotiations of social and professional diplomacy.

Saying “no” to adding an unfulfilling obligation to your schedule lets you say “hell, yes!” to your priorities, your loved ones, your self-care, and your dreams.

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Cool, Sustainable Packing and Shipping Solutions for Earth Day

Posted on: April 15th, 2024 by Julie Bestry | 14 Comments

Nobody will ever call Paper Doll an outdoorsy person. I’m as indoorsy as you can get. People shout about being “at one with nature” but I’m definitely at two with nature; we couldn’t be less compatible. When I saw this video, I thought, yeah, that’s me. (OK, it’s Retta. But philosophically, it’s me.)

So, in a “Ground Control to Major Tom” way, I definitely recognize that Earth is the only home we have, and with Earth Day 2024 just a week away, I’ve had some paper-related sustainability issues on my mind. In particular, after recently helping a client try to downsize, corral, and store packing and shipping materials that had taken over space in her home, I started looking at how we could reduce mess but be more planet-friendly.

TRADITIONAL SHIPPING AND PACKING SUPPLIES

When I was in college, Paper Mommy regularly sent me care packages: mail and magazines I’d received at the house, homemade baked goods and packaged snack surprises, articles from our hometown newspaper, and stick-figure cartoons she drew of herself with curly hair and big feet, signed off with funny and loving captions.

I’d pick up my package downstairs in the student union and then my friends and I would head upstairs to the dining hall, where I’d perform a show-and-tell of all the contents. There was always so much packing material that we all had a blob of it to throw in the trash along with the remains of our dining trays.

While the items in the care package were still memorable, the packing material wasn’t. She might have used bubble wrap, but this was definitely decades before we all had those plastic “air pillows” that come in our Amazon boxes. I suspect Paper Mommy alternated crumpled newspaper and styrofoam peanuts, depending on what she was shipping.

Newsprint

In the olden days, newsprint was commonly used as a packing supply. Newsprint is inexpensive, low-quality, absorbent paper; it’s made from coarse wood pulp and primarily used for printing — you guessed it — newspapers. So, people just crumpled their news and sports sections after having read them and turned them into box filling. (Sometimes Paper Mommy included the comics when she sent care packages so I could smooth them out and read the funny papers as an added treat.)

Printed newspapers are dying, so most people are unlikely to have enough on-hand to pack items for shipping. Unless you’re already a daily subscriber, it’s not an optimal solution. And you’re not going to want to buy weeks and weeks of newspapers in advance of packing delicate items for a move.

You can buy rolls or stacks of “clean” newsprint paper without ink. This is often used as packing paper for shipping and moving, and there are environmentally-friendly versions. For example, you can purchase pads of it, like this package of 360 sheets of Tree House paper. It’s soft, clean newsprint made of recyclable materials.

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Alternatively, you can get a sturdier (I think of it as “crunchier”) type of sustainable, environmentally-friendly paper. It’s easy to find industrial-grade Kraft paper on a roll at Amazon and big-box stores.

Kraft paper photo by Marian Gutierrez under CC0

EcoEnclose sells custom-branded paper made of recycled and post-consumer content, from readily renewable raw materials that can be regrown, and it uses no synthetic fibers. Their curbside recyclable products include 100% recycled packing paper, Kraft paper, and “bogus” paper on rolls. (No, bogus paper isn’t fake paper. It’s paper that’s made from a variety recycled paper materials, including newsprint, recycled Kraft paper, chip board, and corrugated paper. Because it’s kind of a mutt, it’s both softer and less dense than other kinds of packing paper.)   

The problem is that even sustainable packing paper is bulky. It comes on rolls or in thick, folded stacks, and while it’s useful when you’re packing for moves, it’s not particularly convenient to keep large amounts on hand for when you’re shipping occasional packages. (On the plus side, any excess is a great resource for crafts and painting if you’ve got tiny humans at home.)

Packing Peanuts

Traditional foam packing peanuts are bad for the environment and had the annoying feature of being very staticky. If someone sent you a package full of packing peanuts, no matter how carefully you removed the contents from the box, bits of foam stuck to the item and spilled out onto the floor, sticking to the carpet and sometimes making you look like you rubbed a balloon on your head.

Nowadays, you can purchase environmentally-friendly versions, which are starch-based and biodegradable, disintegrating in water; some even have an anti-static feature. You can find the modern versions in traditional peanut or noodle-shapes and at least one company, Bubblefast!, makes a line of FunPak holiday-themed foam peanuts. 

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Styles include the above green Christmas trees, the pink hearts below, blue hearts, rainbow assorted hearts, red, white, and blue stars, pink ribbons, green shamrocks, and green marijuana leaf shapes. (Except for the last, the recitation sounds like a Lucky Charms commercial!)
 
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Packing peanuts are, by nature, space-hogging. Whereas paper rolls can be stored vertically and paper is at least somewhat tidy on its own, packing peanuts need to be contained to keep from spilling all over. If you ran a store where you needed to pack and ship inventory, you could install wall canisters — the kind grocery stores use for bulk candy and nuts — to dispense packing peanuts, but for household storage, it’s not the best alternative for packing or shipping.

Recently, I learned of a truly new product in the packing arena that’s effective, earth-friendly, and pretty cool, developed by a company you probably already know and like.

SCOTCH™ CUSHION LOCK™ PROTECTIVE WRAP

Before we get to the new product, I have to give credit where it’s due. In the past few years, I’ve been a huge fan of Scotch™ Flex & Seal Shipping Roll (as I described in How to Organize and Track Your Packages and Mail). I particularly loved it because it allowed me to rid myself of a clutter of Amazon boxes I’d held onto for shipping weirdly-shaped items.

The Flex & Seal is cool because you just need to cut it to fit what you’re shipping, fold it over so the grey sides stick together, and press the edges to seal it up. For a full-on packing experience, it’s super-cool, especially when you need to ship something weirdly shaped. Plus, the roll is fairly compact, so it’s easy to store. To be clear, I’m not giving it up.

However, unfortunately, the Flex & Seal Shipping Roll just not super-duper for the environment. It’s made of plastic, and plastic comes from petroleum, and petroleum comes from dead dinosaurs. And, while the dinosaurs probably don’t mind, the impact on our environment (i.e., our carbon footprint) makes creating such products not so fabulous for our long-term prospects to avoid ending up like dinosaurs.

So, it’s cool and convenient product; just not the best for the planet.

Generally, it’s hard to find packing solutions that are useful, easily stored, and environmentally friendly. But 3M, the purveyor of so many beloved consumer products, from Post-it! Notes to Command hooks to Scotch tape, didn’t stop with Flex & Seal. It’s “not for nothing” that 3M’s motto is “Science. Applied to Life.”

Thus, 3M’s Scotch™ has come out with Cushion Lock™ Protective Wrap.  

OK, that was fast. And weird. Did you get all that?

How Cushion Lock™ Protective Wrap Works

I’m sure you’ve heard of origami, the artsy folding of paper to create cool shapes like swans. Cushion Lock™ Protective Wrap uses kirigami, a variation of origami that involves both the folding AND cutting of paper.

Think of those paper snowflakes kids make in elementary school, where you fold and cut a regular piece of paper and it magically turns into a symmetrical snowflake. This product uses the same principles to quickly make a 3-D textured material out of flat, 2-D paper on a roll.

3M is positioning Cushion Lock™ Protective Wrap as “the paper that protects.” The key is that it looks and feels different from the packing paper we’re used to because their scientists have designed this weird product to “withstand the jostles of transit” by making it out of intricately cut, 100% recycled paper. All these fold-y/cut-y kirigami‘d bits interlock so they’ll wrap tightly around packed items and conform to them, making a safe little nest.

So, how does it work? Well, you could read their oh-so-serious instructional PDF — that was obviously vetted by attorneys and engineers, given that it says things like, “It does not protect against water damage, crush damage, piercing damage, or thermal damage” and:

“Expand Cushion Lock™ completely, until the fingered walls are vertical but not so much that it narrows to less than five inches in width. 150% expansion in length is ideal, but it works well between 130% – 180% expansion as well. You can also judge the length expansion by how much the protective wrap narrows when you pull on it. Narrowing to 10 inches gives about 150% expansion and is correct if it opens completely, or you can pull more until it is completely open, then relax back to the 10-inch width.”

Um, yeah, OK. Maybe just read the next few paragraphs instead.

Start by unrolling the wrap. It doesn’t look like much at first, but it stretches! So, as they warn, don’t unroll it up in the air at face- or chest-level or it’ll stretch unevenly. Instead, lay it on a flat surface like your desk or kitchen counter and unroll for a nice, even stretch.

Stretch the wrap to about shoulder width; as you stretch, it goes from a flat wrap to a 3D, textured, honeycomb appearance.

Place your item on top of the stretched surface and roll. Keep rolling. Hum “Merrily We Roll Along” if necessary as you roll the now-three-dimensional honeycomb paper around your item.

As you roll, pull more wrap off of the roll and scrunch (my words, not theirs) the wrap around whatever you’re shipping or storing. Keep rolling it up until you can’t actually see your item anymore. (Think of what a nice surprise itwill be for the recipient, who won’t immediately know what’s contained when the box is opened!)

You’re going to use multiple layers to create a protective cushion around your shipment until the whole item looks like friendly cartoon bees will fly out and offer you honey!

Finally, box it up snugly. That means the edges of your big, blobby, honeycombish-wrapped item will touch the inside walls of the box. 3M’s scientists have tested the “nested protection” of the Cushion Lock™ Protective Wrap on various fragile items including jars, ceramic mugs, and glass vases.

For what it’s worth, while the instructions focus on packing in boxes, I suspect think this would be a great way to pack gifts and purchases in your suitcase when visiting at the holidays or traveling by air!

[Finally, once you’ve boxed up what you turned into a nifty honeycombed, protective package, Scotch™ even has sustainable Box Lock Paper Packaging Tape, which comes with a “Stay Sealed” guarantee.]

On the flip side, once the item reaches its destination, unwrap and toss the wrap in your curbside recycling bin, knowing it’s entirely recyclable!

Benefits of Cushion Lock™ Protective Wrap

I see three main categories of benefits to using Scotch™ Cushion Lock™ Protective Wrap: usability benefits (it’s nerdy-cool, convenient, protective, and secure), reduced packing-related clutter, and sustainability. 

Coolness and Convenience Factors
  • Starts flat but expands; as you pull it, the wrap lengthens from side-to-side, but shortens and raises up, revealing a hexagonal pattern.
  • Uses a honeycomb pattern so it conforms to whatever you’re sending.
  • Easy to tear one-handed, so there’s no need for scissors or a blade.
  • Cushion Lock™ absorbs shocks and vibrations, protecting delicate objects, making it suitable for shipping, moving, or packing items for long-term storage.
Storage Advantages
  • Saves up to 85% (over other product types) on storage space.
  • Here’s some wild math on usage equivalents: One thirty-foot roll of Scotch™ Cushion Lock™ can expand to do the same packing work as 75 feet of plastic bubble wrap! A 175-foot roll can expand to do the work of 435 feet of bubble wrap. 1000 feet of Cushion Lock™ will expand to equal the power of 2,500 feet of plastic bubble wrap. Whether you’re sending care packages across the state to your college kid or shipping your Etsy store products across the continent to customers, there’s a lot to be said for reducing your storage while expanding your packing power.
  • Use up to 60% less to fill a cubit-foot box vs. plastic bubble and other expanding paper wraps.
Sustainability
  • Made of 100% recyclable materials, which means it’s entirely curbside-recyclable after it’s been used.
  • One truck of Cushion Lock™ is as useful as 10 trucks of 3/16″ bubble wrap, decreasing the carbon footprint for manufacture and retail delivery.
  • Scotch™ Cushion Lock™ is the only GreenCircle-Certified paper wrap, having been rigorously tested and verified to have met the standards for sustainability. 

You can purchase Scotch™ Cushion Lock™ Protective Wrap in 12-inch wide rolls of 30 feet ($6.78), or 50 feet ($11.22), suitable for periodic shipping use. If you’re using Cushion Lock™ for packing and shipping a lot of delicate items for business, or packing for moving, you may want to power up to the 600-foot roll ($74.98).

There are also two container options if you need to accommodate a larger inventory of the wrap. The first is just a larger amount of Cushion Lock™, in a cardboard dispenser box. You can buy a 175-foot roll in the cardboard dispenser for $30.21 from Amazon.

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However, if you really need to pack a lot, like if you have an online store and ship merchandise daily, there’s a more heavy-duty option. The Scotch™ Cushion Lock™ Protective Wrap Refillable Dispenser holds up to 1000ft of the product, and has a tension-adjusting knob making it easy to get optimal tension for expansion. It runs a little under $100 on Amazon.

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Empty Cushion Lock™ Protective Wrap Refillable Dispenser


Loaded Cushion Lock™ Protective Wrap Refillable Dispenser

3M has a special webpage for your perusal if you have any interest in commercial applications for Cushion Lock™. 

The Power of Science

Paper Doll‘s knowledge of the intricacies of science begins and ends with recalling that the mitochondria are the powerhouse of the cell. However, I find science-y things to be fascinating.

Somebody had to sit down and use too many years of math (and knowledge of origami and kirigami) to figure out how to make flat paper turn into sticky-uppy paper.

And that paper would need to cushion delicate things enough to withstand an overzealous FedEx driver tossing your shipment the way the American Tourister gorilla used to batter 1970’s luggage!

If you, too, find the science intriguing, I have two more videos you might enjoy. 3M’s Scotch™ scientists Tom Corrigan and Marcia Popa sound really proud as they describe the science behind the development of Cushion Lock™. (You can just imagine how proud their moms are, right?)

Additionally, this video from ASAP Science offers up an explanation of the science behind using kirigami for packing materials. It’s mind-blowing to imagine how the applications of this paper science could have far reaching impact for other industries and applications.

EARTH DAY 2024 READING

Finally, as we approach Earth Day 2024 next week on Monday, April 22, 2024, you may wish to explore other issues of paper sustainability and productivity:

Choosing Paper for a Healthier Planet (Paper & Packaging)

Get Ready To Celebrate Earth Day 2024! (Earth 911)

Is the Paper Industry Sustainable? (American Forest and Paper Association)

Recycled Content: The Truth About Third-Party Certification (GreenCircle)

Sustainable Paper Products: What to Look For and Where to Buy (Environment.co)

Whether you love nature or are prone to shouting at overly friendly squirrels, I hope this gave you some ideas for more sustainable and easy-to-organize packing and shipping solutions. Happy Earth Day 2024!

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