How Professional Organizers (& Hair Stylists) Reverse Some Intolerable Problems
Kabarett der Komiker; Gisela Schlüter unter Friseurhaube by Willy Pragher (CC BY 3.0)
What’s annoying you today? What’s been annoying you so long that you almost don’t notice the annoyance until someone else mentions it?
Over Labor Day weekend, my air conditioner died. This was an acute problem, one that I noticed almost immediately (as the temperature was rising overnight instead of going down) and which led to much misery until the holiday weekend ended and the maintenance staff could address the problem fully.
(To be fair, they did bring a mobile A/C unit, which cooled my bedroom to a bearable temperature; unfortunately, it was so loud, I felt like I was sleeping adjacent to a jet engine. Sometimes, you trade one intolerable thing for another. That’s often what keeps you from seeking, or implementing a solution in the first place.)
That same weekend, I realized that my fridge was dying. Unlike the A/C unit, this was a less obvious thing to tolerate. The freezer was still working perfectly, and the contents of the fridge weren’t warm; they just weren’t entirely full-on chilly. Weeks earlier, the refrigerator had been making some moaning noises, but fiddling with the settings of the circa-1986 fridge seemed to stop the noise. And then I stopped noticing.
Two household problems, but one felt a lot more urgent than the other. But these weren’t the only problems.
Early in the pandemic, to ensure everyone’s safety, our complex had asked us to understand that they’d only be performing inside maintenance for emergencies. So, when we had torrential rains in the summer of 2020, the roof was repaired immediately; the ceiling, well, not so quickly.
When my hot water heater expired in the spring of 2021, I vacated my home and the nice gentlemen figured out the complexities of draining a water heater on the second floor to enable removal and installation of a new one. And later that summer, my smoke detector decided to start beeping in eight sequences of three loud bursts, every ten minutes, ALL.NIGHT.LONG. That was something I could not tolerate (and thankfully, the leasing office agreed).
However, there were other, smaller repairs where I managed DIY solutions or made do. It was easier to avoid contact during the pandemic for non-emergency issues. And then I just started tolerating some inconveniences.
WHAT YOU TOLERATE NEVER GOES AWAY
A few years ago, in Organize Away Frustration: Practice The Only Good Kind of “Intolerance,” we discussed how the first step to creating the kind of life you want is to start by identifying the unsatisfying things that you tolerate. Knowing what makes you unhappy helps you create a strategy for eliminating those “tolerations,” the obstacles to your happiness. (This is true with organizing tangible items, as well as dealing with things in your schedule, and even non-organizing things, like annoyances in our relationships and whether we live our true values.)
Knowing what makes you unhappy helps you create a strategy for eliminating those 'tolerations,' the obstacles to your happiness. Share on XAs I mentioned in that prior post, I see part of my role as a professional organizer and productivity expert as helping my clients identify the areas in which they’ve been tolerating inconveniences far too long. Recent client situations have included:
- Carla* never could find gift certificates when she was ready to use them. They were always in drawers, or in the greeting cards with which they were given. We collected all of them and then separated restaurant gift certificates from shopping gift certificates. The former might be used on any given evening when she and her spouse were already out of the house and might drop in somewhere to eat, so we created a wallet for dining out cards. For the latter, given that Carla only shopped on Saturday, we clipped them together and put them in the Saturday slot of her tickler file. (Every new gift card or certificate went to one of those two places from then on.)
- Joe always had trouble figuring out how to adjust the settings on his DVR. It didn’t help that his box of manuals included instructions for every gadget and device he’d owned since the early 1970s. We purged all of the manuals that applied to defunct gadgets, created folders in the “household” section of the Family Files with one folder for each type of technology (computers, entertainment, kitchen, etc.) But then we scanned the DVR instructions that plagued him as a PDF and put it in the Notes app on his phone so it was even easier to access (and enlarge).
- Jenny’s pantry was crowded with ingredients, including a wide variety of items marked “gluten-free.” But nobody in Jenny’s household was avoiding gluten! It turns out that an occasional weekend houseguest cooked while visiting and she needed gluten-free ingredients. We rearranged the pantry so that the occasional guest had her own labeled shelf, and everyone was happier.
- Patsy saw that when she’d click on a link, her browser would sometimes give her a “web kit error” or just a blank page. She’d been copying the link from one browser (Safari) to another (Chrome) where it would work just fine, but lately, she’d been having to do that more and more, increasing her frustration. Upgrading her operating system allowed her to upgrade her browser, and she no longer had to struggle.
* All names have been changed to protect client confidentiality.
Sometimes professional organizers are dealing with clutter, but all organizers end up dealing with obstacles to productivity. The problem is that we’re all more likely to ignore a problem that can’t be fixed immediately.
When we’re focused on the task at hand, whether that’s work or school or driving or parenting, the thing we’re doing is more likely to have a deadline or at least be time-based. We postpone removing the obstacle until such time as it becomes too large or problematic to withstand. This is what happens when people keep driving with the “Check engine” light glowing on their dash panel.
RECENT TOLERATIONS TACKLED
As I wrote about in Organize Away Frustration: Practice The Only Good Kind of “Intolerance,” many of the “intolerables” in our lives can be conquered with a little research and applying one of the following:
- A product
- A service
- A change in behavior
- A change in attitude
In that post, I shared how I was almost unrelievedly ecstatic to find a new kind of shower curtain hook that made changing out shower curtain liners much easier on my short-of-stature self. Today, I’d like to share just a few recent examples of how applying a combination of solutions have removed annoyances.
A Tale of Two TVs
Do you have any of those old, boxy CRT TVs in your home? I did. In fact, I had three, which is kind of ridiculous when you realize I’m a singleton. You see, I’d had a television in my living room and another in my bedroom. When the bedroom TV died (so long ago that I’m embarrassed to discuss the exact date), I moved the living room TV to the bedroom.
When I met a friend for lunch one day, she surprised me by having brought one of her old, boxy CRT TVs for my use! To this day, I’m flummoxed as to how she ever got it into her car, and though I recall basically rolling/sliding it up the carpeted stairs of my apartment, I’ve got no idea how I ever managed to get it from my car to my own front door. (Perhaps this is like how they claim women forget the pain of childbirth?)
Eventually, I got a modern flat-screen TV for my living room. But I also embraced the advice not to have screens in the bedroom (to avoid that sleep-stealing blue light) and got rid of cable in that room. Thus, I had a broken TV, a gifted (no longer used) TV, and an unused TV. All on the second floor of my home.
Did I mention these are big, heavy, boxy TVs?
Remember how I said I had my hot water heater replaced last year? Well, one of those TVs took up most of the empty space at the top of the staircase, and so even though our apartment complex had been pretty insistent that we were never to ask the maintenance men to carry or remove anything unrelated to their work, the guys decided that it would be to everyone’s benefit to get that one TV out. Yay! But that still left two.
To be fair, I wasn’t always just tolerating the annoyance of having two unused, dust-catching, space-hogging CRT TVs in my home. I had called the various junk haulers in town, but they wanted a frustratingly large fee for something that I could have done myself, had I only been stronger, had slightly longer arms to get fully around the TVs, and had been a bit taller (so I could have seen the stairs over the top of the TVs and not feared tumbling down).
Yes, even we professional organizers fall prey to those self-imposed obstacles. Had I thrown a little money at the problem, it would have been solved back then.
I also called many non-profits, but nobody wanted donated CRTs.
Fast forward to late August, when I contacted Chattanooga’s Always Be Recycling. The owners, a couple who’d moved from Pennsylvania, opened their business here just at the start of the pandemic. I’d networked online with Leann Cinaglia to see how their services might dovetail with my clients’ needs. The last time we’d spoken, they weren’t able to handle CRTs because of the difficulty in recycling them, but on a day where the frustration had just gotten too high, I called to see if they might have any suggestions for other solutions. And that’s where the magic happened!
It turns out that annoyingly boxy 20″ CRT TVs have become popular with the retro gaming crowd! After one short phone call, Always Be Recycling’s co-owner Jamison Cinaglia and his associate Bret (pictured above) arrived on time the next day and quickly removed both TVs and oodles of old landline phones, cables, and cords as well — at no charge. (Had I lived significantly farther from their venue, there would have been a fee, but significantly less than the various junk haulers had quoted me.)
Throughout the entire interaction, they were professional, careful, friendly, and polite. This bodes well for knowing they’ll treat my clients, especially the elderly and/or delicate ones, with respect and compassion.
So, this is a reminder that sometimes, the key is to continue to ask for input on solutions until the right one appears.
No Longer Hot Under the Collar
Not all intolerances are about excess or clutter. A major frustration in my life is heat. (And no, that’s not specific to the air conditioning and refrigerator woes.) I’m just always too hot. I hydrate. I wear temperature-appropriate clothing. But no matter what, even my head perspires and my hair frizzes and I end up looking like Art Garfunkel. (No offense, Art.)
And yes, I realize that a Buffalonian living in the Deep South might have found a more obvious solution to that problem over three-plus decades.
I’ve tried those evaporative cooling neck scarves and “chilly towels.”
That touchless vacuum is amazing! Kind of a cross between a Roomba (which is overkill in a lot of situations) and a portable vacuum.
Isn’t it nifty? I love how, just by keeping our eyes (and imaginations) open, we can find solutions in so many places! Thanks for reading!
Well, that little schmutz sucker is just about the cutest thing ever! It’s perfect for a hair salon because hair is pretty lightweight and hence probably can be absorbed easily. I love when people find neat solutions.
I think half the battle of fixing an intolerable problem is just take a bit of time to focus on it. I know I’ve tolerated many things somewhat mindlessly. A fresh pair of eyes can often be the perfect tool to help us realize what we’ve been (unnecessarily) putting up with. I too have found a lot of solutions on YouTube. It’s a great resource and we can fix more than we might have thought!
I’m the reverse of you on temperature, however. I’m always cold. We should switch locations LOL!
I completely agree with you. The key to solving anything intolerable is identifying that that’s what it is and putting a tiny bit of time/energy/focus/money on it and yes, a fresh pair of eyes can be magical.
I find many more people are usually cold, especially my clients, which is why I’m so often hot. (If only I were the cool kind of “hot!”) Thanks for reading!
I love the bladeless cooler idea! I think I may give it as a gift to some relatives that are always hot. Thanks for the gift idea.
I’m glad you like it; it was a complete surprise to me. My sister had told me that my mom sent something, so I was on the lookout for Amazon. When I first opened the box, I was really confused as to why mom mom would send me headphones. But when I saw what a genius thing it really was, I was delighted. There are lots of different brands, but I’m very happy with mine!
As always, I love your sense of humor and ability to find the coolest things. Who knew? A neck fan? A power crumb/schmutz-sucker! Amazing.
But seriously, we often get complacent about those little (or not so little) annoyances. We hear, see, or feel all of the warning signs, but never quite get around to attending to the cues. It’s amazing how much we CAN tolerate.
However, it’s quite an amazing feeling to handle the issues. Often, the solution isn’t so difficult. But the benefit of the fix is tremendous. We feel freer, lighter, happier, “cooler,” etc.
I am grateful for your reminder to tolerate less, and take action more.
I’m glad my goofball humor resonates with you. And yes, we just tolerate so much because we can’t envision that there IS a solution, so we often don’t search very hard or long for one. But as soon as we open our eyes to the potential for possible improvements, those solutions practically jump up and down in front of us!
“What you tolerate never goes away” is such an eye-opener. The neck fan and mini vacuum are incredible, but my favorite thing about this post is your suggestion to keep looking for answers to problems whose solutions you haven’t found yet.
Great stuff!
I’m glad you liked the nifty products, and even happier that we’re in agreement about seeking solutions rather than tolerating them. Thanks so much for reading!
I’m glad you found a happy ending to your CRT TV problem! Never give up!
I wish that Always Be Recycling was by me–I have a client that needs to get rid of a large CRT TV. In fact, my parents have one and even after my brother promised to buy my dad a new flat screen TV, my dad would not give it up. I assure you , he’s NOT part of the retro-gaming crowd but he still appreciates his big-box television.
LOL, your dad might not be a retro-gamer, but if he’s happy still using his old TV, I’ll be honest, I think the audio quality is better on those than on the flat screens. More speaker holes, maybe? 😉
But seriously, Stacey, might one of these resources in Bergen County, NJ work for you? https://www.nj.gov/dep/dshw/ewaste/heavy.html
Organizing your life can be an daunting task, one that seems impossible to overcome. But with the help of a professional organizer, it can be done! Not only will they help you get your life in order, but they can also help with some other intolerable problems you may be facing. From hair stylists to personal shoppers, these professionals can help reverse some of the most common problems people face.
It is evident that professional organizers and hair stylists can help alleviate some of the most intolerable problems. They offer a unique set of skills, from interior design knowledge to hair care expertise, that can be tailored to any individual’s needs or desires. Professional organizers and hair stylists can also provide an objective and unbiased opinion on what types of solutions may work best in any given situation.