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But for most values, it can be hard to tell and certainly hard to measure. One method to measure if you’re living in alignment with your values (and the goals toward those values) comes from the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) modality.

ACT is a type of psychotherapy that focuses on emphasizing actions that increase well-being, and the ACT Values Bulls-Eye helps people not only identify their values but envision how well they’re doing in trying to live in alignment. This short video offers some guidance for using a simplified version of the Bull’s-Eye; online, you’ll find a variety of modifications for circles, stars, and graphs.

Get Creative in Describing Your Year

Not everyone wants to feel like they’re putting themselves through a performance interview. But there are creative ways to look at the year you’ve just survived.

Morgana Rae, a wealth and life coach who transforms people’s relationships with money, had an interesting idea in her newsletter last Friday. She said that she had a “one-step super trick for empowerment” in the new year — to end the prior year with a headline! 

Don’t worry, you don’t have to pretend to work for the New York Times or a clickbait web site. Morgana’s was “2022 was the year that nothing worked out as planned, but everything worked out.” In 2009 (the year I was hospitalized 6 times and mostly couldn’t work with clients), my headline could have been, “2009 was the year that gave me lots of entertaining-in-retrospect cocktail party anecdotes.”

(Note: In January, Morgana is releasing a 10th Anniversary Edition of her best-seller, Financial Alchemy.)

If you’re pithy enough for headlines, could you end 2022 by describing it as a novel or a movie? You were the protagonist, but who (or what) were the heroes and villains of the story? What was the plot? Try to accurately — and/or entertainingly — describe your year in a paragraph.

Don’t Reinvent the Wheel

You don’t have to figure this out on your own. The free, downloadable YearCompass is a popular resource for a reason. Download this fillable, printable PDF — print the booklet version and fill it out by hand, or type your answers in the digital version — and explore the creative questions to get a deep, abiding sense of what your year really meant, and how to approach the coming year. 

DESIGN A BLUEPRINT FOR NEXT YEAR’S MINDSET

Once you have a strong handle on the year that was, you can begin to set your goals and benchmarks for the year that will be. But writing down goals and creating a task list isn’t always motivating. That’s because we’re not all motivated the same way. In Gretchen Rubin‘s Four Tendencies Quiz, I’m definitely an Obliger.

If you’re not familiar with the basics of the Four Tendencies, the categories reflect how we respond to expectations. As an Obliger, I respond best to outer expectations — and so accountability (through working with my accountability partner, the magnificent Dr. Melissa Gratias, and with my Mastermind Group) is the key to meeting my goals. Inner expectations? Yeah, I blow right past those.

You might be an Obliger, Upholder, Questioner, or Rebel. Upholders do well with discipline; Questioners need to know the “why” behind the what; and Rebels? Well, I suspect everyone’s still trying to figure out how to get Rebels to do what they believe they want to (and should) do.

Resolutions

Beyond figuring out what kind of support works best for you, it helps to borrow from marketing. For a long time, resolutions had a good long run. But the truth is most people break their resolutions. (Read James Clear’s Atomic Habits for a handle on why that is.)

So, with that in mind, let’s go back to Graham Allcott and his video, How to Not Suck At Your New Year’s Resolutions.

And if you still want to make resolutions, take a peek at Vox’s In Search of an Attainable New Year’s Resolution, science-based piece (including advice on a values-based approach).

But again, I’m less a fan of making resolutions, and more inclined to cheer on a big, bold way to set an attitude for the coming year. There are a few we’ve discussed at Paper Doll HQ over the course of the years. 

Word of the Year

Pick a Word of the Year to help you focus your attentions on your intentions. 

Another way to think of it is, what is your theme for 2023?

Whether or not you define what you will do with goals or resolutions, choosing this word helps clarify the approach you will take. To quote myself from four years, ago, the idea is that you pick a word that “encapsulates the emotional heft of what you want your year to look and feel like.” Each time you agree to take something on, you can ask whether that event or project resonates with the word you’ve picked.

Decide for yourself what the rules are. Do you want to pick a word based on what your life was missing this year? Or go for a bold new direction in which you want to take your life?

As a colleague embraced retirement this year, she picked the word “humor” for 2022 and used her newfound time to post something funny every day on social media, bringing levity to her friends.

I consider my word as carefully as picking the three wishes I’d request from a genie. I think I’ve seen too many episodes of the Twilight Zone; I know that if something isn’t worded well, I can feel cursed. The year I picked “resilience,” I ended up with too many unfortunate things from which to bounce back.

I’ve told the story before that I picked “ample” for 2020, humorously entering the year with the phrase, “Ample: it’s not just for bosoms anymore.” 2020 gave us ample opportunities to sit at home, worry, and sanitize our hands. I had much more luck in 2021 with “delighted,” but wasn’t able to find a word that resonated this year.

For 2023, my word is fulfilled.

Here are some ideas for picking yours.

Word of the Year for 2023 (Goal Chaser)

Find Your Word for 2023 (Susannah Conway)

One-Word Themes for 2023 (Gretchen Rubin)

Quote or Motto of the Year

One word isn’t enough for some people. (Me. I mean me.)

Put on your marketing manager hat and consider what kind of quote, motto, or imperative phrase would motivate you.

By the way, to make sure I wanted to say “imperative phrase” I asked Siri and in my (male, Irish) Siri’s lilting voice, the reply I got was, “Imperatives are used principally for ordering, requesting or advising the listener to do (or not to do) something: “Put down the gun!”, “Pass me the sauce”, “Don’t go too near the tiger.”

Indeed. As a motto for 2023, “Don’t go too near the tiger” seems like a pretty wise option.

I’m not kidding. The “tiger” in question might be someone trying to get you to volunteer for one more committee or an acquaintance who drains your energy.

Whether you pick a word, a quote, a motto, or a mantra, put your motivator front and center. I discussed these ideas at greater length in Organizing A Fresh Start: Catalysts for Success, but find ways to infuse your year with your word or concept.

Use signage — Post your word or phrase on your fridge, the bathroom mirror, a sticky note in the center of your steering wheel, or wherever it will grab your attention. Get yourself a fun little felt word board with changeable letters and put it on display in your home or office.

Alternatively, you could get a customized “Word of the Year” sticker, piece of jewelry or a plaque on Etsy. 

Create a vision board — Combine your words with inspiring images to make your year’s theme resonate. My colleague Janine Adams, and her podcasting partner Shannon Wilkinson, had a great episode of their Getting to Good Enough last week on Creating a Vision Board.

I’m so design-challenged, but Janine talked about free, easy methods for creating a digital vision board that made me rethink my aversion. Janine and Shannon recommended this video from business consultant Ellen Coule.

Put together a playlist of songs that reflect your word or theme — At the start of every day, before you even get out of bed, play at least one song from the playlist to rev yourself up for achieving your goals.

For example, if you’re not happy where you are — in your job or your life or your fourth-floor walkup apartment — and want to inspire yourself to proactively move toward your next big thing, play The Animals “We Gotta Get Out of this Place” (which, by the way, was my theme song during graduate school for exactly the reason you think). For some, a positive song makes more sense; for others, reminding yourself of what you don’t want may motivate. Do you prefer a carrot or stick approach?

On the TV show Ally McBeal, several episodes dealt with Ally coming up with a theme song for her life. I’ll leave you with the song she picked.

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My dearest Paper Doll readers, thank you for coming along on this journey with me. May your annual review be enlightening and your word or theme for 2023 inspire you. If you’ve already got a word or motto for the year, please share in the comments.

Happy New Year, and I’ll see you next year!